My 10 year old son, going in to year 6 in September. Pretty much overnight about a month ago he just stopped coming for a hug and stopped letting me hug him. I work from home and he would come home from school and come and sit on my lap briefly and tell me about his day, he’d hug me on the sofa just before bedtime and let me hug and kiss him when I tuck him in. Very occasionally he’ll forget and come and sit on my lap or let me kiss him on the top of his head good night, but most of the time he has become ‘allergic’ to my kisses!
It’s heart-breaking! For the first 2 years of his life we were pretty much attached permanently 24hours a day as he had some minor issues, eczema and some breathing issues, he liked to be held upright to sleep, I exclusively breast fed for the 1st 6 months of his life, we were permanently attached. Generally over the next few years he was pretty much stuck to me like glue, he came to me for everything, always wanted hugs and to be right next to me constantly, when he was happy or particularly when he was sad or frustrated, now it’s all just gone, poof! In an instant!
He still comes to me with all his problems, I take him to all his activities as his Dad (my husband) works very long hours. I get the brunt of his moods and he also tells me all the good stuff too. He seems to be developing in to the moody teenage, everything sucks stage pretty rapidly too.
I totally know I can’t force him to hug me, I will still ask, offer or attempt but definitely won’t force him if he says no. His older brother still hugs and actively offers them to all family members.
Not quite sure the point of my post, I know no one can bring my little huggy boy back, just needed to get it off my chest. Has anyone else lost the hugs of a once huggy child overnight? How do I deal with the heartbreak?!