Advice please angry toddler

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Hi everyone. Ds is 18 months.
and has been a content baby. I recently decided to stop his dummy as he only really had it at nap times , night time or when he was poorly or upset. He then used to pick up a dummy and just put it in his mouth. Something that never phased him before.z so I decided to take his dummy away. It went well for a few days. He wakes up frequently in the night , our family were poorly with a sickness bug so I gave him his dummy when he would wake in the night so we could all rest.he would always lie in his cot and just go to sleep. However three weeks after I didn’t give him a dummy he’s still kicking off at night time. Throwing tantrums, head butting and throwing his head back and becoming so angry he’s making himself sick.
doni give him his dummy back just for night time until he gets out of this angry phase. Or stick with not giving it him. Nothign settles him, wether he is having a cuddle or in the cot alone he still screams and screams with anger .
please can anyone give me some advice

I think I'd be angry if I had something that soothed and comforted me and someone just took it away one day and then gave it back and then took it away again. Wouldn't you be angry and upset in those circumstances?

You're welcome. It's important to think about it from the toddlers perspective when trying to understand their behaviour and how to tackle it.

Well she has done something horrible. Not intentionally, but that's why he's upset. Look at it that way and what she needs to do is fairly obvious. I'm not sure there is any more advice to give.

But I look forward to reading your helpful advice and suggestions.

It’s his comfort, you’ve taken it away then inconsistently allowed it back so that coupled with his very young age and no wonder he’s confused and upset. Give it back. Keep it for sleep time only so it doesn’t mess with teeth or speech. Get rid when he’s 3 and he’ll understand giving it to new babies, wanting to be a big boy, swapping it for a toy, dummy fairy or whatever variation you go with. We did it that way and it worked like a charm- DS asked for a new hot wheels and I said he could swap his dummies and he promptly binned them himself with zero upset.