Neighbour screaming at child

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I dont know what to do. My neighbour screams at her child, who is about 6. It's horrible. He cries obviously. It's not everyday. I don't know them . I'm not a perfect parent either but I wouldn't be screaming like that. I phoned the council and they said phone the police. Then they know its me, but I'm more bothered about what's happening. I'm just fed up of listening to it and obviously feel bad for the child . Isn't notifying the police over the top?

Are you sure of what you're hearing? Only cos my son really loves it when I'm SUPER dramatic when he plays peek a boo. He's one. This involves me throwing up my arms and screaming reallllly loud 😳
Also the other night it occurred to me that if the neighbours were listening in at bedtime it sounds like I'm smacking him really loud then he screams. What's really happening is he's lobbing his bottle at his wooden cot in a temper and screaming for good measure.
Sometimes it's easy to mis hear things.
If you're 100 percent sure then I don't know what to suggest, poor kid

Depending on how brave you’re feeling I would be tempted to go and knock on the door and say you heard some screaming and it sounded like someone was hurt and you wanted to check everything was okay 🤔 - obviously this isn’t true; and she will know it’s not true but it lets her know you can hear her, and hopefully might make her think twice about the way she behaves. (You said you don’t care about her knowing it’s you). If it continues and you’re very worried there is absolutely no harm ringing 101 and logging it - please do. Or if you think the child is in serious harm ring 999 - I’ve done this a few times with a child in a similar situation down my own road.

I have had similar situation this weekend, honestly I've never heard anything like what I was hearing. I had a word with the grandma of the kids who is a friend of mine hoping she can intervene as I was seriously concerned.

The other option is to call NSPCC

NSPCC or ring social services and make an ANON report. You could ring the police but they will likely direct you too SS anyway.

I wouldn't go round and knock on the door, only because in todays society you have no idea who or what will answer the door and how understanding they are.

I most certainly would not just ignore it.

I think this too. It will make her think next time. You don’t want to get that child any more upset than he already is.

I'm going to try nspcc or something . She's defo telling him off . She also screams in a forien language sometimes so you can't tell what she's saying. I'm not going to just ignore it. But I'm not going round . If she's that quick to get in a temper and lose it I think the authorities are the best bet. Thanks everyone. X

My ndn's were fighting once. I heard the word knife and rang 999. If you honestly fear for his safety ring them. Likely windows open would mean it could be a few neighbours surely?

We share the same living room wall. We are in a block of maisonettes . I will report it .

I have the same I contact NSPCC and kept an eye on the washing line and then when I saw the school uniform and knew which school the child went to reported it to them too.

Safeguarding is everyone's business and hopefully it results in extra support for the family.

To be honest one of my children is being a total nightmare today and I've had to scream and shout at them several times today. Id be really pissed off if you were my neighbour - you don't know what the kid is up to and assuming she's not effing and blinding or threatening to kill him it's really none of your business

It’s horrible, isn’t it?
I share a wall with a harridan single mother in her 50s who verbally abuses her 16yo daughter, calling her every name under the sun. It escalates on a Sunday afternoon (before school) and by midnight they’re both hysterical. During lockdown it was particularly bad.

The whole building hears her, have reported her to the police and SS. They’ve had workshops and residential care but it still goes on.

Last night we got back from holiday and I heard her growl/scream “You’re a piece of shit bastard, girl!” and I shouted through the wall “So, we’re back to the old habits, are we?” Sudden silence…
She’s probably been at it the whole time we were away. Sneaky abusive cow.
I’ve now decided to keep a written diary of what I hear and record it from my side of the wall if possible.

Child abuse is a crime, OP. Help stop it if you can.

I had a safeguarding concern and found the NSPCC really helpful when I spoke to them. They suggested the best course of action which I followed through. When it comes to the safety of children you can not take chances.

I'd ring NSPCC. I had to do this years ago when my NDN was screaming at her DC. She then did a midnight flit with them tow. Poor bloody kids

@lazysummerdayz actually it is. Being regularly shouted at and intimidated is emotional neglect and whilst you may think it's fine and may only do it occasionally, a parent who does it regularly is abusing their child and needs additional support which hopefully NSPCC and social services involvement will provide.