DS not potty trained at nursery

[MoltenLasagne]

DS is 3yo and has been potty trained at home including whilst out with us for 3 months. We have had 2 accidents in the last month, both times when we were out and didn't get to the toilet in time.

However he still isn't even close to potty trained at nursery and I don't know what we can do. He occasionally makes it for a wee, but is soiling nearly every day which is driving me mad just from a laundry / buying new pants perspective.

We've discussed it with them, and they think it's because he gets FOMO about leaving activities. I also get the impression they think I'm lying about him being potty trained at home.

We've spoken to him about it, we've practised saying in a big voice that he needs a wee or poo, and at home he is now self-sufficient at doing his clothes for a wee, but still needs help with a poo. Has anyone else gone through this? Is there anything you'd suggest that I've not thought of?

What are nursery doing to support? Are they taking him to the toilet? Are they giving encouragement/reminders?

It's really likely that they are right and he is distracted by all of the stuff going on. Going to the toilet won't be as much fun, although this soon changes once they get to year one...then they like going to the toilet more than anything!

At the moment, they ask him if he needs the toilet rather than taking him. It's a Montessori nursery, so they're very focused on child-led, but I feel like they need to be more assertive on this, but I don't know how much to push it.

They need to take him to the toilet at regular intervals instead of just asking 🙄 most kids will say no if theyre playing and then its too late.

My child's nurseries/preschool just take all the kids to the bathroom together at several intervals through out the day and no one really has accidents.
I assumed that's what most do, rather than leaving it up to the child to decide. That seems unwise!

Agree that the nursery need to be more proactive with taking him to the toilet.

There is an episode of Daniel Tiger called Prince Wednesday Goes to the Potty, which is specifically about stopping play when you need the toilet. It's set at nursery. It might be worth watching with your DS?

Thank you, I will try that. We've already watched a Bing episode that's similar but no harm trying a second one! I'll speak to nursery on Monday about being more proactive. I did think their approach was daft, but seeing as he does take himself off at home, I wondered if I was being unreasonable about it.