Do you really love being a mum every day?

[Scoaf]

Is it normal to hate being a mum some days, or are there really people out there who love every second of being a parent?

I think so, yes.
I’m sure I had moments with 2 under 2 where it was really hard but I really don’t remember them, they were lovely as babies and wonderful when their sibling joined a few years later.
We’ve had tough times with one of ours, lovely kid but some MH issues which have made me lose a lot of sleep. I’ve doubted whether or not I was really a good parent to have not noticed what was going on. Hated that I’d given birth to a child that was so so unhappy and blamed myself for it.
But not once have I ever actually hated being a parent.
They’re brilliant people.

Totally normal.

Every single day has a moment that I love, and make me grateful I’m a parent. But you asked if people love every single second - not me, no.

I will add though I do think it’s totally normal to have days where it’s all shit!!!
I was able to be at home with all of mine (some people would have hated it) with no pressures of work, we had family round the corner who would babysit so we could
have time together as adults, our kids had cousins really nearby who they could play with, no financial stress, outside help (cleaner, food shopping delivered that sort of thing) so we had a lot of freedom and flexibility.
i don’t doubt for a second that all of this contributed overwhelmingly positively towards my time at home with kids.

There are days where they are complete rays of sunshine, and others where all I want to do is drop kick them.

@Scoaf I remember you from the March 2022 thread. Two has been a tough age for us too. It definitely gets better as they get older.

Certainly not! But that’s life, nothing is perfect all the time!

Hell no.

I hated the first approx 3 years with each one. So boring. So relentless. So unremittingly tedious.

Can’t get enough of them now though. Wish I’d had one more.

I loathe the chores, admin, anxiety etc.

But when the joy comes out for those brief moments - I love nothing more.

Every second of every day - nope

Something every day - absolutely

I have two quite easy kids and they are loving and affectionate

but I do find it hard some days, relentless, pre teen behaviour is (wtf!!!)

😂

No I don't love it all of the time as I'm absolutely exhausted! I love them unconditionally but I am too tired to enjoy it all the time. I know I'll miss these days when they're older but I can't take it all in right now as it's too much some days.

I don't love every second. But I love every day yes. There is the odd moment I really can't say I'm enjoying it such as when I'm scraping poo into the loo from cloth nappies whilst trying to stop older baby pushing toddler into the bath or toddler hitting baby on the head etc. Many moments when it's hard too. But every single day, most of the time, I love it. They make me laugh and make my heart swell up every day.

I’ve never hated being a mum or having the children, I’ve hated the way things have gone on a particular day (special mention for our holiday from hell this year that I wish we hadn’t gone on) or hated that I brought the kids somewhere I should have just ticked off on my own (generally shopping when I was so tired setting off I shouldn’t have been going!)

I love every day, there are moments of joy all the time. There are a few moments of boredom and frustration most days, but not the majority of the time. I'm lucky to have easy dc with a decent age gap, a hands-on partner, and a good enough income to splurge on entertainment. Would be far less fun if I was dealing with 2 high needs under 2s on my own on a shoestring.

I don't love every moment of my days, but I always love that I'm a mother and I feel gratitude and joy looking at my DC every day.

When I had 3 hours of sleep a night for years at the beginning I was very depressed indeed, but I always loved that I was a parent, just hated society's treatment of mothers and the lack of basic support meaning constant exhaustion. Societal attitudes and political policies are the problem, rather than being a mother.

Everyday I appreciate the fact that I’m a parent.

I do have days where everything is going wrong and I just want a break from it all. But I have to say that there is always at least one moment in everyday where my children have made me smile - even when we are deep in a disagreement.

It's definitely normal, especially when they're young.

Some days I'd like a bit of quiet so I can read a book, but not hated it at any point yet, no

Thankyou all for your replies.
Maybe i was being slightly dramatic.
I guess i have days where i hate parenting, not being a parent, like many of you have said, its everything else that goes with being a parent.

I love my DS more than life and he is amazing, but sometimes i guess i feel like im not doing a good enough job and thats why i hate it, when he goes to bed, the old mum guilt kicks in.
Its nice to know im not the only one.

@Dyra oh hi 👋 yes i remember you too, how are you?
Im glad im not the only 1, as i feel exactly that way. I think i see other people appearing to love every second and wonder whats up with me.