How to remove the dummy at 12 months?

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Has anyone got any advice how to remove the dummy at 12 months of age? My baby doesn't use it during the day, just nap time and bedtime. I tried going cold turkey which was okay at nap time, but she cried hysterically for thirty minutes until I caved at bedtime. I honestly don't remember her being so distraught.

We kept ‘losing’ dummies until we only had one left, then just bit the bullet and went cold Turkey.

We let her keep it to help her fall asleep until she just stopped needing it. If taking it away makes her so upset, why do you want to? DD used to suck on it as she fell asleep and then it fell out, we then put it away until next bedtime. Gradually she just stopped needing it, but she got there herself rather than us telling her she wasn't going to have it anymore. Maybe try restricting access rather than a total cut-off?

We just cut a small hole in ours - ‘oh no, is it broken?’ Then when she woke at night she still had it, it just didn’t ‘work’ but we never took it away. Didn’t take long for her to stop reaching for it.

Is there a reason why you want to take it away when she’s still so young? The usual consensus is to remove it before 6 months or at age 3- it’s a huge comfort to her and she’ll have no idea why you’ve taken it away. Limiting it strictly to sleep time is great and ensures it won’t cause problems with speech so I don’t see the issue in her continuing to have it in bed? If she’s losing it overnight and waking you I would put 10 glow in the dark ones in the cot or leave a dim nightlight on. DS willing swapped his for a toy when he was 3. No tears whatsoever and it was super easy.

Just let her have it. DD is 2 and I’m waiting til she can understand the ‘dummy fairy’ probably around age 3 - worked for DS1! None of mine have any teeth issues or thumb sucking, big teeth coming in totally fine.

Thanks for your suggestions. I'd never heard gone by the six months or three years. I'd been told by the health visitor to remove it by twelve months, which I believe are the NHS guidelines. I've tried putting a hole in the dummy, but she's upset by that too. She's also far too young to understand the concept of her dummy being broken. I think I'm going to shelve it for a while and try again in a few more months.

If the only has it for sleeping at night, it isn't doing any harm. Let her keep it until she drops it on her own.

Yabu to listen to a hv who isn't the one trying to console a baby who's having their comforter taken away....
All of mine binned theirs themselves around 3 yo.. No speech or teeth problems...

If she's only having it for sleep I don't see what the issue is?
It's a good sleep aid and comfort for them.

Both my children had their dummy until age 3 and then there was no trouble getting rid of it. One child had braces because of their teeth but the other didn’t

I would also leave it longer. My DD has found it very comforting through all the periods of teething and nursery illnesses that come after 12 months. She has just turned 2 and I plan to leave it until she has all her teeth and can understand the dummy fairy idea.

If it's for sleep it's ok OP. Have your peace. NHS is not there to deal with nuclear war. Dummies are not good when they impeed the speech development which is not the case.