Leaving 3 month old to sleep?

[zaneyjainey]

My baby is 3 months old. She starts to sleep for the night in her moses basket upstairs at around 7pm. She will usually wake 2-4 hours later. Next week I have visitors. Is it safe to leave her to sleep alone for a couple of hours each night (7-9pmish) so I can have dinner with my guests? I would check on her every 20 mins or so but am concerned about SIDS.

No it's advised that babies sleep in the same room as you until 6 months

No OP, not safe.

ok, thank you. I’ll suggest early dinners so I can stay with her all night as usual

I probably would but understand it isn’t advised. Could you try put the Moses basket in the kitchen/hallway so baby is close by?

Keep the Moses basket for stay until it's time for you to go to bed.

And enjoy your dinner.

You have to make your own risk assessment but I think an hour here or there is fine. The UK advice is framed in a very black and white way compared to similar advice from other countries which basically just says they should sleep overnight in your room or doesn’t mention the same room thing at all. Actual SIDS is also incredibly rare. If you feel more comfortable you could put them down in the pram nearer to you downstairs.

That should read keep the basket downstairs

Just put moses basket downstairs -in fact, why don't you do that already so you can watch TV or similar yourself in the evening?

Lullaby Trust has been really clear for at least a decade now that ALL sleep should be with people around until at least 6 months old.

Can she sleep in the same room? My kids were bomb proof and could sleep anywhere.
Having said that, do all mums(or dads) retire at 7pm when their babies go to bed? How does that work?
Full disclosure- my kids slept in their own rooms from day one - it was not the recommendation then to have them in with you. I only know one person of my friends who did have them in with them. We all breastfed and all the kids are now healthy adults.

I think I’ll try the moses basket downstairs for the week as suggested and go up with her when she wakes up after 7pm. She tends to prefer darkness to sleep at night which I can’t achieve downstairs but worth giving it another go. The worst that will happen is I need to take her upstairs and stay up there with her as usual. Thanks all