Just looking for a little advice.
Me and ex have a DC (3) together. Get on reasonably well with each other and definitely try to always put DC at the forefront.
DC not at nursery yet, due to start in September.
Ex and I both work shifts. Up until now we have had a great routine going, ex gets DC 2 nights and 4 days out of every 8 which has worked perfectly with our shifts and works well for everyone involved. But it’s based on our shifts rather than anything else, essentially at this point weekends have never really mattered as DC has never been in a setting where weekends were the only time off but this will change in September.
Both of our shift patterns are due to change as well and I can’t for the life of me make it work perfectly, it seems like there will be chunks of time where one of us won’t have DC for 5/6 days then other times only for two days at a time, it just seems all over the place with no real routine which makes me worry DC will find it unsettling.
I just can’t figure out an alternative, I have given thought to 50/50 but given that our shifts will change on a weekly basis I don’t even see how that could work properly.
has anyone else been in a situation where you have two full time working parents, working differing shift patterns and having to make a custody arrangement work? What did you do?
Thank you.