Toileting problem for 3 year old

[babyinarms]

My DS is 3.4 years old . We toilet trained him in Jan and is doing very well with weeing in toilet but wont do a poo in the toilet. He will only do it in his nappy.
Have tried reward system, bribery and explaining that this is what big boys do but he refuses.
He does get constipated occassionally and did when first toilet training. I am afraid if i push him too hard he will start holding and have issues about it all the time but i'm slowly getting nowhwere fast....any suggestions???

Hi there,
My ds is the same age and I recently, about a month ago,I started to potty train him . He won't tell me when he wants to wee, but he does it when I put him on the potty.But never a poo, he did that in his nappy.

Yesterday He wore pans for the first time, (he had been wearing pull ups), AND I have noticed the difference. Today he did a poo in the pans and he did not like it. I put the poo in the potty and explained to him that, that is the pace for the poo. Apparently he has understood it. My advice is only use the nappies for night time. That is what I am going to do.
They don't like feeling dirty and that is the only way my ds will learn.
Let me know how it goes.

god am in the same position-DS is 2.8, am potty training since sunday and is doing great on the wees but totally traumatised by poos and is now constipated

dont quite know what the solution is

Me too, DS 2.5 andis great with doing wees on the toilet after only 6 days, but won't tell me when he needs to poo, just does it in his pants. He seems to be terrified of doing a poo in the toilet and I cant understand why..

One question girls: Do you just put them on the potty or toilet when you think they might need a wee, do you ask them or do they tell you?
My ds does not ask and it is up to me to put him on the potty. Today he refused a couple of times and minutes later he did a huge wee on his pans. He did not like it and I hope he will remember it tomorrow. So far I have had 2 wee accidents in the 2 days he has been wearing pans. Is that too many accidents?
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I don't think that's too many accidents at all, he will get the hang of it. For the first day DS had quite a few accidents, especially when he was engrossed in playing. He mainly tells me now when he needs to go for a wee (won't for poo), and is very stubborn about doing it if it wasn't his suggestion..

Babyinarms - My son is about the same age. He is great about going for a pee and has been trained since just before xmas. BUT he does one poo a day and this is in his night time nappy when he wakes up first thing in the morning. That is just his time to poo and there is not a lot I can do about it. I am going to try puuting him in pull up at night (once the packet of nappies is finished) and try to encourage him to get up and poo.

no help but commiseration - my ds doesn't manage poos or wees in the potty at the moment! v occasionally he does but mostly it's all going on the floor or in his pants. and yet he held on to a wee all morning at nursery so he can control it. not sure what to do about it either.

More accidents I am afraid! I am kooing for Dvd's that can help him. He has the one about the big bear, but it is not working. I am finding it hard like you. I am 5 months pregnant and I hope to get it right by Sept.
Any good videos you know?

He has just done a poo in his pans again!!!.

I know you have to be understanding, but that does not work with an almost 4 yrs old boy. So he sat on the floor for 4 min while I cleaned his pans and then after he told me what he had done wrong, he apologised. i am going to try that naughty spot method to solve the problem. I am a great mum,and I don't take him to the naughty cornet much, because he has leart to behave well, so I won't feel guilty about doing it for potty trainning.