9 week old where do they go to sleep ?

[LizzeyBenett]

So my question is she sleeps in a next to me crib during the night I have to get her to sleep on me then transfer her , but what does everyone do putting them down for the night initially ? As in do you put them to sleep in there crib and leave them in the room alone ? I'm very uneasy about that I need to be able to see that she's breathing but that means I'm going to bed with her and don't get to spend any time with her dad . Am I being silly not putting her down in the room for an hour or two before I go to bed I feel like she is too young for that yet ?

Absolutely do not leave her alone in a room to sleep until she’s a minimum of 6 months old OP. Having someone else in the room with her reduces the risk of SIDS massively. I know it’s tough, I have a 4 month old baby, but it’s not worth the risk. You get your time back eventually x

Definitely don't put her down in the room alone - they're supposed to sleep with someone else in the room until they're six months, including for naps.

We put ours in the pram carry cot or baby box (we're in Scotland) downstairs with us, and then took them up with us when we were ready to go to bed.

That's what I thought thank you it's just sometimes others make me feel like I'm being way over the top even though I know better than to leave her on her own.

That's what I've been doing she is in her bassinet with us downstairs I just sometimes feel it's unfair to keep her up (not awake just not in her crib) until I'm ready and usually just go to bed if she is fussing . It's all such a learning curve .

Mine go in their cots upstairs at 7. If you don’t feel comfortable with that though, don’t do it until you feel ready.

Mine sleeps on the sofa next to us til we go to bed. Still does at 9 months. DP goes to bed much later than me so brings her up when he goes to bed.

Yeah moses basket was in the lounge. Although I do kinda wished I'd just gone to bed when they did and got some extra sleep x

Mine used to go down in the Moses basket on the living room at the age if I wasn't wanting to go to bed yet or I'd often go to bed early at that stage as was absolutely knackered. Until they were at least 6 months old they always went down to sleep in a room with someone else in it as it reduces the chance of SIDs.

Mine just slept on me while I watched TV and fed them occasionally.

My daughter has a four month old daughter and during the day and evening she either sleeps in the pram or a Moses basket downstairs until late evening when they all go up to their bedroom to go in the Next to me. Baby has a feed at this time and then sleeps most nights until 7 am. She has always slept well, does not need soothing or rocking, just get puts down and goes to sleep! She is still quite small and fits in the pram or Moses basket so hopefully this pattern will continue until she is six months old.

I used to have a Moses basket in the living room that I then transferred them in to be next me in my bedroom. I wouldn’t be putting a baby in their own room personally.

My eldest starting settling in their own room from 18months - 2 years… my youngest not so much!

Mine would always fall asleep on one of us downstairs around 8pm while we watched tv and then we'd just bring her up with us at around 10pm for bottle and bed.

At 9 weeks she would just sleep anywhere, on me, moses basket downstairs, sling - but mostly on me feeding/after feeding. So I'd stay downstairs then go up when I/partner and I wanted to and she'd sleep in the next to me on the times she would be able to be put down
Sometimes we'd both go up early as we'd be tired but we'd relax, watch the TV up there until it became a distraction, before that we'd have it on quiet and since she's be feeding she'd be facing into me anyway
I think it was around 4/5 months I liked to go up by 8pm, but it'd take so long to get her to sleep it would then be late so I'd just stay upstairs and she'd wake often anywhere
At 6 months I used a baby monitor and tried to come downstairs when possible, at 7 months she was in her own room so I came down once she was asleep

I think around the 3 month mark I started putting her down for an hour or 2 before I went to bed and used a monitor and regular checks. But before that I was going to bed with her yes, or else was waiting until after a later bottle to put her down into her next to me. (We had next to me in the bedroom and moses basket and bassinet in the sitting room)

Moses basket in the living room, or just sleeping on you (as long as you’re awake and not at risk of falling asleep on the sofa while you’re holding her - if you start nodding off, put her straight in the basket).

When you’re in this phase it feels never ending, but the truth is it goes in the blink of an eye. Honestly, just enjoy her being tiny and those lovely snuggles. Soon enough she’ll be 6m old so you can start to try to get a bedtime routine which involves her going to sleep upstairs, but you don’t get this time back while they’re so small. Just cuddle her in the evenings, eat lots of biscuits and watch TV - you’re not spoiling her, whatever older relatives might like to tell you, and you’re not ruining your chances of establishing a proper routine once she’s a bit older, either.

Mine used to sleep on the sofa in their bassinet until we went up.

However there was a point where we were disturbing them (during that 7-9/10 period) and so I think we put them in our bedroom with a video baby monitor ie we could see them at all times.

my first just slept on me..the second in a moses basket in the lounge with me, and then I would put the whole mises basket in the next to me crib. Honestly can't remember what I did when he was too big for the moses basket...and it was only just over a year ago 🤔

I'm upstairs in bed right now reading/playing on phone whilst my 4 5 month old is asleep in his cot. I'd like to spend more time with my partner, but they aren't this little for long and I want to keep him as safe as possible.

We did keep him downstairs in his travel cot with us until about a month ago when he started to struggle sleeping with tv on, he still manages in the day but only when contact napping it didn't seem fair keeping him up just to suit us.

Downstairs with us initially either in Moses basket or on one of us. At some point (~3 months) she stopped being able to sleep with the TV on and started screaming in the evening. At that point only a dark room would calm her and we started putting her down in the bedroom, initially for 1 hr and then 2 hr. You have to make your own risk assessment on that one but maybe worth remembering that the advice is not so strict everywhere and perhaps not meant to be taken so literally. I agree that it’s important for them to be close to you overnight or for long sleeps but don’t think an hour here or there matters much if you are keeping an eye on them. In some countries babies nap outside alone from a young age.

You’re doing fine OP, newborns need a lot of help with sleep and at that age you are mainly working on developing the circadian rhythm. I just used to go to bed with mine and chill out reading or watching Netflix on my iPad for a bit whilst they slept.

We have a downstairs travel cot for our twelve week old. She takes her naps in there and starts her night time sleep in there too before we bring her upstairs whenever we go to bed.