Feeling low 3 months post partum- normal or something else?

[Mum7644885]

Hi,

My baby is 3 months old and I am burning out. I’m struggling to find the energy to do basic stuff and my mind is on the go slow, I can’t think straight at the moment.

my first child is 3 and when they are both home I have so much guilt about not being fun and engaging. I’m trying my best but I’m struggling. The baby is a terrible napper, constantly battling with her and she sleeps about 30 mins a time.

mentally I’m really struggling, my periods have started again and I recognise that my hormones are all over the place but with number 1, I always managed to power through and because I only had the one, there was some down time but now there is nothing, maybe an hour of a evening of peace but I should be going to bed rather than staying up.

I know this is awful but I just want to spend time with my first, going out and having fun, not being tethered to naps and feeds and crying fits. I feel rubbish, both my children were very much planned and I love them both very much but I’m really struggling second time round. I keep trying to think of ways I can go back to work but then feel guilty for not being around to raise my baby.

Did anyone else burn out 3 months PP, I’m starting to think I need to speak to the GP, I need something to give me some get up and go or something to try and balance me out, I want to be a good, happy positive mum for my kids but I just don’t have it in me right now

I don’t have any useful advice but wanted to send some solidarity as I’m in the same boat. A 3mo and a 5yo. I’m impatient with my older child, struggling to give him enough time and I’m exhausted. My baby also does exactly 30 minute naps !

might be a bit harder with a 3yo but I’m trying to find activities where my older one can do something with my on the floor and baby is in bouncer watching or her play mat. Or some afternoons we have a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie together.

if you have a partner and he has the weekend off maybe he can take the baby and you do something with your 3yo.

you do also need time for you. To look after yourself and rest. If you have any friends or family nearby that can help, rope them in!

with all that said, absolutely seek some support from your gp. That’s what they are there for. We both know it having an older one but it’s hard to remember when we are in the trenches- ‘this too shall pass’ xx

@BellaNutella88 thanks for your response

Its really hard juggling the two different ages isn’t it, I’m lucky that my partner is home of a weekend so I do try to do things just me and my eldest

Your right in that I know it gets better, just struggling to see that now

Hope your doing okay !

@Mum7644885 thank you! Some days doing good. Other days less so! The first few months were horrendous - my dd has reflux and took a while to get it under control so I was living on a few hours sleep. So things are better than they were touch wood !

That’s great that you can have time with your older one on a weekend. Be kind to yourself, you are doing a great job xx