Two year old wants to walk not go in pram but we don't drive

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Basically what title says. He wants to walk. Gets furious at pram but we don't drive and need to walk two miles to get to nursery so I can work. Nursery seem to think we are babying him as he can walk nicely to park and museum with them, but that's a lot closer.

If I wanted to let him walk to nursery for eight we'd literally have to set off at six am and I don't think I have that in me.

Also, I like running and literally the only way I can run is take him in running buggy which he enjoys once he's in, but is this selfish of mr? We normally do a half hour run for me then an hour/hour and a half in park for him.

Our park is across the road so we can take him there ok although I pick him up if he won't hold my hand.
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says the poster who Sometimes I’ll lock myself in the bathroom and put headphones on just to get away.. for you me DD!

Ok weird stalker. Yeah sometimes I will do that. Ever had a kid with probable ADHD who doesn’t stop talking ever?

You can get slings/ backpacks for older toddlers. They usually enjoy climbing on your back and it's not seen by them as being babied like a pram is. This worked well for us. It does depend on the size of child and parent!

At 2 can they use a balance bike. Start at home teaching him how to stop, road safety etc but then off he goes, they are great our DS used one from 18months or so.

But yes, he needs to do whats needed in the mean time. Maybe take him for a little walk around the block(holding your hand) before you head off to nursery.

Walk, back carry in a toddler carrier, cycle with him in a seat, unicycle like this?

I personally don’t let my kids scooter or balance bike to nursery as don’t t trust them not to smash into parked cars, and have seen way too many toddlers almost smash into me and other pedestrians and fly straight across roads!

The image of this is hilarious! Whatever works 😂

I am a nanny to three kids. The oldest two have to be at school for 8am. The three year old wants to walk but the school is not close and we would never make it on time as she's simply too slow, of course! We have to use the buggy. At first she would kick off but I don't not have time for that crap and would force her in. Now, she doesn't resist at all and gets in by herself. I think it's because she knows she has no choice so no point fighting it. You have to be consistent, don't give in sometimes causing mixed messages. He's still young so it might take a while. He can walk to the park or whatever you decide but on the way to nursery it's the buggy.

Another vote for trying a push along scooter

maybe this child has “probable ADHD”

So what? You can strap them in the buggy and leave. You can’t make them stop screaming. Or talking in my case. Your argument is completely irrelevant

my point is

for someone who seems to have a tricky time of it with a “probable” adhd child

you were rather quick to throw down a rather judgey post about the Op’s parenting

I read it as supportive not judgey - encouraging OP to give herself permission to do that needs to be done.

Pulling quotes from others' threads on the other hand is way past judgey.

It wasn’t a judgy post. Or a critique of anyone’s parenting. She was asking if she should let him walk. The answer is no. She’s the parent. He does what she needs him to do at that time. Walking is not feasible. So buggy it is whether he wants to or not

This!

'Nursery seem to think we are babying him'

I've said this on here before, but this attitude from nurseries infuriates me. Do they say people taking their children in the car are babying them too? There is NOTHING wrong with using a pram for a toddler on a 2 mile journey. And no doubt it's better for them than being put in a car, at least they are outside getting fresh air, and can potentially walk at least some of the way. Increasing the amount as they get faster.

Of course it's ok to force a toddler sometimes, it's not aggressive, it's setting perfectly reasonable boundaries.

Your not babying him at all, your just being practical. Bribe him in and when you pass a certain point everyday - like the big tree or whatever let him walk. With luck he’ll get into the routine of it.

The actual act isn’t aggressive but there is a difference in my mind at least between Strap your kid in the buggy. Ignore the screaming and off you go and a slightly more sympathetic outlook which recognises the child doesn’t like the pushchair and offers toys or snacks or whatever might make it a bit more comfortable for them.

With that said I do agree the stalking post was really really odd - I did report it @Gymmum82 and have to admit I don’t know why it’s still up, it’s really inappropriate

I didn't read it as judgy. It's hard to restrain his when he's fighting and shouting 'no' though.

I was going to try letting him walk some of the way this week but we were almost late every day.

Bribes might be good although the food he likes changes a lot almost every day. Yesterday I bought a banana to pickup and it was refused

Thank you. They are lovely at nursery but yes, his keyworker who said it is young.