When did you leave your DC overnight?

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We have a really close friends wedding next May which our DD won’t be attending. There is accommodation booked for us Friday night-Monday morning and our DD will be 11 months old. Is this too long to leave her? Should we just do 2 nights or just the night of the wedding? Should we leave her for a night earlier than this so she’s used to it? when did you leave your DC overnight for the first time?

sorry I have so many questions and even though it’s not until next year I’m overthinking it already!

Everyone's different there's no right or wrong answer. When my first was that age I'd prob not have gone that long, dd2 maybe. Now in hindsight I'd jump at the chance of retaining a small slither of myself and go for the full thing. I gave up way too much of myself (ie my entire life) to be a wife and mum, a weekend off will do you a world of good.

I left ds for the first time with my dm when he was 11mo. Just for 24hrs. He was still breastfeeding all the time and my boobs couldn't handle any longer. Neither could I tbh, I didn't want to leave him really.

Who are you leaving her with and is she familiar with them and where she will be sleeping?

She may be a bit unsettled but nothing that's going to adversely impact her into adulthood. It's not a prolonged time and it's quite good to get her used to being elsewhere should you ever have a hospital stay.

Who are you leaving her with? At your house or theirs? Is it someone and somewhere she knows well?

@Singleandproud @Underlig it’ll be either mine or my partners parents. My parents own a caravan in a seaside resort so I was thinking they might be the better option as it’ll be like a holiday to her and maybe more exciting? (If an 11 month old gets excited over things like that!) And DP parents she’ll have stayed at, with us, overnight plenty of times as they live a couple of hours away

I left my dd with her grandparents from around 6 months old for the occasional night.

I think it depends on how you feel and who you have to look after them.

She will be fine and with people who love and care for herm it's likely she'll be a bit unsettled but that's normal. I would probably go with the place she's been to more but realistically how much she'd remember from.previous visits at that age is anyones guess.

3 or 4months with my mum.

With our 2nd we had night nannies so was left overnight from 3 weeks!

6 weeks, everyone was fine.

6 weeks old

From that age ours would stay with GPs for an overnight about once a month.

I couldn't leave them longer than one night until they were about 18 months as I breastfed.