Nursery ignoring naps at nursery

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DS 14 months goes to nursery 2 mornings a week, he’s slept well there for the last 2 months since he started. He has a 15-20 min morning nap around 930-10 and then he goes down for his lunch nap at 1230-1ish and happily sleeps for 2+ hours. This was his routine at home and nursery.

A few times recently he’s woken up quite late for him around 7am and I’ve then moved to one nap, putting him down at 11.30am, where he will sleep until 2pm and go to bed at 7.

I happened to mentioned this to nursery and since then they keep telling me he’s not having his morning nap anymore. When I ask if he refused it and wouldn’t go to sleep there response is ‘he was just happy playing’ , this is all I get out of them. I feel like they’ve decided he’s moved to 1 nap and don’t bother anymore.

The issue is he clearly cannot stay awake from 6am-1230pm. By the time I pick him up and get him home he’s absolutely shattered, will fall asleep straight away for 40 minutes and then wakes up hysterical and absolutely will not go back to sleep. We spend the rest of the day with tears and him so upset, he doesn’t want to play or do anything. He then goes to bed 630pm on those nights and cries himself to sleep (we do pop in and out so he’s not completely alone). On non nursery days we have no problems with his naps or bedtime.

I guess I’m just looking for some advice on how to approach nursery if anyone has had a similar situation.

DS went to nursery at 15 mo and none of them had morning naps. The full day children would be asleep/falling asleep at 1pm collection time and I’d take DS home to sleep.

There were no mats out for naps at any other time.

Nurseries don't tend to do 2 naps at that age, mine started at 11 and 13 months and went straight to 1 nap at 12pm

My daughter started to have only one nap around that age. Even before, she always dropped a nap at the nursery - she was rather play than sleep.
I don't think the nursery staff can do anything about it - if the child doesn't want to nap, they can't force them.
She's now two and a half and still naps when she's at home in the afternoon - never at nursery.

If he's happy playing and doesn't seem to want to the nap then I can't say I blame them for not putting him down. ESP for 20 mins.

I think something needs done for his sleep once he's home.
Where's he sleeping when home?

What time are you picking him up? And how long is his one nap at nursery?

If hes morning only they won't offer naps, parents send them for interaction not sleeping

My son dropped his morning nap at nursery earlier than at home. I think that's fairly common -there's so much going on there including non napping children that going to sleep doesn't seem appealing. To be honest with having only 15-20 minutes anyway at home, it's going to be completely gone soon in any case.

Once my DS was on one nap it started at 11.30/45 for 2 hours, like your late mornings do. I have never understood how small children do mornings only because of this actually- even at 26m my son naps right from 11.45-13.00. I briefly considered a change in my working hours which would entail him doing mornings only but quickly realised that would never work with naps.
Not sure what your solution is if he can't stay there all day tbh. I guess you have no option but to ride it out and wait for him to adjust. Maybe try a cup/bottle of milk once you get him home, might chill him out before he sleeps?

I don't see how he could nap at nursery if you pick him up at 12.30 but want him to nap 11.30 til 2? Or are you wanting them to put him in his pushchair so he can stay asleep in that when you pick him up? But yeah, if he's only in for 3 hours or so I wouldn't really expect them to put him to sleep, I would just let him play.

Putting a child down for a 15 minute nap when just going for a morning session is ludicrous and the nursery staff probably don't have time for this.

They don't facilitate children's naps according to each child. They have designated quiet times. If you want one to one care like that you're better off having a nanny.

My son was 13 months when he started and solidly on 2 naps at home (10am and 2pm) but he had FOMO so dropped to 1 nap a day immediately at nursery (whilst still napping twice at home for the next 5 months).
He was also a hot mess initially, but settled within a few weeks so hopefully your LO will too. Nap transitions are tricky in general.