How can I get over this feeling of grief?

[OnlyChildGreif]

So I have one beautiful boy. And my husband is one and done. I so wanted a bigger family and I think I’m grieving.

I’d like to hear if anyone else went through this? Did it ever get better?

p.s. I know therapy, be grateful some people don’t get to have any, your son is healthy etc. I’m just very alone in my life with this experience.

How old are you? And your son? He might be one and done now but not forever.

Did you and he not discuss this previously? You have two very opposing views. Did he know you wanted a big family? Can you afford it?

That seems like prolonged the pain to entertain that idea. We are 33. But it seems almost worst to hope and still have to go through this process at 45 or so.

Yes we can afford it. We both said 2 before we got married but he changed his mind a few years later. It was during my pregnancy.

And by bigger I meant bigger than one. I didn’t want 7 or anything like that.

I don't know how to get over it but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in feeling this way. After the birth of my daughter, DP told me that he didn't want any more kids (he already had 2 from a previous relationship). I was devastated as had always discussed having 2 together. I would cry as my daughter grew, knowing that I would never experience these things. Then, despite using contraception, I accidentally fell pregnant again. I was over the moon but my partner obviously wasn't and he wanted me to have a termination. It almost broke us but we got through it. I'm now constantly terrified of accidentally falling pregnant again though because I wouldn't want to have a termination but I know that our relationship and family likely wouldn't cope with an other.
When I thought it was just going to be our daughter, I threw myself into all the things that we could do together. There are lots of things that are so much easier with 1 than with 2.

@Ohlittleone Thank you for your post. And thank you for saying you found it emotionally helpful to throw yourself into activities with you daughter.