Evening,
late to be posting this but haven’t had a chance until now. I’m just looking to see how others juggle responsibilities & the share of parenting between you and OH,
I am on Mat leave and my husband has a good income so provides for us. Our baby is now 5 weeks old. We are mix feeding. We have equally shared responsibilities both in the house and with our baby but recently, DH has started saying how he’s so tired and pushed to his limits, how he works during the day and without him working we’d not be able to have our house/lifestyle etc. which is true but I have brought it to his attention that I also have a job during the day of being with our baby. It’s not like I do nothing all day.
he gets annoyed at me for not sleeping when the baby sleeps in the day, saying that my schedule is more flexible than his. Whilst this is true, there are various reasons why I can’t sleep during the day, from being busy doing housework to my body pumping with adrenaline and literally unable to sleep. Our baby often is restless during the day too.
so now I’m with the baby all day, then all night also and my husband will do the 6am feed, allowing me to sleep 2ish hours until he starts work.
our baby has bad reflux so after feeding, needs sitting up for half hour, then burping, then takes time to settle. By that time it’s around 30-45 min until next feed so there isn’t much sleep. On a good night May be longer. Last night I didn’t sleep until 4am. Today we visited family. I was exhausted all day, my DH took a nap and there was no opportunity for me to do so.
if I am genuinely not seeing my DH point of view or if there’s any way I can improve I would like to know as maybe there’s things I’m just not understanding
thank you x