Planning to leave him- tell me your positive stories as a single Mum. I'm so scared.

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Me and partner, 1 toddler, pregnant with 2nd baby. Not married.

Been together 5 years. But I have realised that I am not happy.

He is a loyal father so I don't regret having my kids with him but from the perspective of our relationship, it's not working. I am not respected.

He has shocking debt and has bled my life savings dry as I've continuously bailed him out. He is emotionally immature and unable to support me emotionally.

Our intimacy has died out and when he goes away, I dread him coming home. His presence brings me stress and I can't do it anymore.

I have decided it's time to leave.

I am so scared of :

• breaking the family. The effect this will have on the children not having the stable family unit

• having to share my children and let him have them sometimes 😭

• being on my own not meeting anyone.

I am looking for other women who have been in this situation and positive stories to share.

Please and thankyou.

Relief

Such relief

And control of your life

It's great

Your kids won't care

It is what it is and they get used to it

The younger they are the better

And when he has them at the weekends you can go out or just relax it's bliss honestly

I had three ages four, seven and nine. It was a massive relief to be on my own. I can actually remember skipping down the street. I found it much easier on my own. My rules, my bed, my life.

Wow.. thanks for sharing! Sounds like it was a hugely positive experience for all of you xx

also relief and being able to make your own decisions

and not living in fear all the time, I didn’t know how stressed I was until it stopped.

in your case I expect you will be so happy at not having to carry another adult.

don’t too much about not seeing the kids, most of these men don’t bother to see their kids much. They are all talk at the beginning but it usually fades out when they meet another woman. These types of men can’t cope on their own, they quickly find another victim to sponge off.

my kids are a lot older than yours ( high school age ) and they all say they wish I’d left him sooner 🙁.but I did what I thought was right at the time - hindsight is a wonderful thing.

As others have said, relief.
Just pure relief.
No more dreading him coming home or me dreading going home.
Don't have lots of money but me and my children so so much happier and relaxed.
Good luck

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Everything will be defined how he reacts to this scenario. If he decides to put the children first and behave sensibly, you may find yourself with the bliss that is man child free and getting free alternate weekends.

Frankly, even if he reacts badly the sense of relief that comes from not having some useless lump in your house is immeasurable.

It’s much calmer and easier parenting children when there is relationship harmony

Deffo positive for me. Am calm happy we share the kids yes but why not? He's their father he needs to do his share of parenting. Was broke to start with but that's life.