My ex and 1 dated for max 2 months before I found out I was pregnant at this point he turned into a completely different person with some very alarming behaviors which long story short had me running in the opposite direction and I ended the relationship before I was stuck in a very dangerous situation.
After non stop messages some of which were threatening and intimidating I blocked contact ( I did however unblock to send on scan pictures with updates)
Once baby was born I went on to unblock him again and let me know baby was here but this time I had been blocked so I took this to mean he had no intention of being a dad and left it at that. I registered the baby and left the father off the birth certificate.
A week later I got a text saying he knew about the baby (although I don't know how since my message didn't go through) and he wanted to see her. As I've mentioned we we barley starting out when I got pregnant so this guy is basically a complete stranger and I'm just not comfortable with letting someone I don't know take my baby out of our home and away from me, baby is also BF so that's another factor. I have offered for the father to visit baby here at my home but I just don't want them to take her.
He came and met baby gave me a lot of abuse about not putting him on the Birth certificate and threatened to go to court to change this.
Baby is now nearly 6 months old, visits have been few and far between and the gap Inbetween gets longer each time. Its now at the point she won't go to him because she doesn't know who he is, the entire visit she screams for me. I've only ever brought up him financially supporting her once and I was told he couldn't afford at the moment I've not mentioned it since. On the last visit he turned up in a new car and also mentioned going on holiday next week. Meanwhile I'm living off beans on toast for tea because every penny I have I spend on what she needs. (And I know this is nothing special any parent should do this it's the bare minimum in my opinion) But I sat thinking to myself whilst I was getting horrible messages from him because for the first time I've said I'm busy when he wants to visit - why am I struggling so much when he claims he wants to be her father and I'm the reason he's not able to - because he's not named on the birth certificate so I applied through CMS.
Is it wrong of me to expect help financially because he's not named on the birth certificate, he still sees her (in a fashion)?