school in september and shes wetting herself more than ever?????

[chocolatemummy]

My dd is 4 and starts school i 5 onths, She is still in appies at night and has been wetting herself during the day more than ever lately, I am at my wits end with her? and I get the feeling the childminder is fed up too

omg, sorry, I have just realised how bad that message was, I was rushing as had to go and turn oven off lol

have tried to use star charts before but as she is with a mixture of me, childminder and and nursery its hard to be consistent.
I am gong to try it again though, give me some ideas? did you make it yourself, what treats/goals did you use?

Is she having problems because she's forgetting to go to the toliet? You all have to work together to help her, you're the boss, you tell them what you want them to do.

Firstly, chill out a bit. (I know, I know, but ds1 is 5 and often has to be changed at school. No way the nighttime nappy is coming off in the foreseeable future.)
Secondly, chocolate buttons usually work quite well.

really?
Childminder said its because of all the changes, she distrupted and I felt awful, but the only change is that I have changed jobs, dont think dd even knows? and I changed jobs to work shifts so i could spend more time with her...and I do!

choc button each time she uses the toilet?

Yes. Just for a few days, so that you both know she can do it.

Have also tried buying a new pack of knickers and releasing them one at a time at the end of a dry day. Worked better for dd than ds1 though!

Going back to when I was first training dd, I bought a big box of plastic play food and she got something out of the box each time she used the potty.

Somehow, the chocolate always worked best. Can't think why.

Have dd's hours with childminder stayed the same with your job change?

Are you out in the evenings? Is dd aware?

Ds1 is terrible whenever dh goes away, which doesn't happen very often, but has to happen occasionally. He's also prone to accidents when we go to friends' houses if it's somewhere he's been left in the past. We have had a lot of disruption in the last couple of years, and I think this is a subconscious thing that's arisen from it.

her hours in child care have changed yes, but she still goes to nursery three afternoons, which she hardly ever wee's herself at, and childminder in the mornings (only if I am on early shift) I am away in evenings sometimes if on late shift but I was just as much in last job.But if I am on a late shift now, I have all day with her and we have had great fun last couple of weeks, she wets herself at childminder all the time and more and more at home

Mostly I think she just leaves it too late and because I have never made big deal about accidents she nop thinks its okay and wets herself and says " it was only an accident" and " thats alright isnt it"

The nursery/childminder/you need to keep reminding her to use the toilet. Children forget and get so engrossed in what they are doing they need an adult to ask them to use the loo.

I'm probably at risk of over-analysis now, but:
If she's suddenly getting more time with you, which she's really enjoying, maybe there's a reaction going on when she has to go to the childminder's. It won't be deliberate, so don't take it personally.

I think she is having to make adjustments, even if from a rational adult point of view they're relatively minor, and changes for the better.

Whatever you do, resist the temptation to apply pressure of the "you're about to start school" variety. That's just reinforcing the idea of change that might be underlying the problem.