How do I do this?

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Potty train my stubborn , anti potty 2.5 yo boy? :(

im really struggling

he kicks off at the mention of the potty or loo

will only sit on potty with pants on

i feel like we’re getting further away and I’m worried how can I do it? I feel like he’s getting so much older and it just doesn’t seem close I feel like a failure and that I’m letting himndown

but I can’t force him to sit on a potty or anytime he has (the very very rare few times) sat on it with nothing on waist down, he won’t do something on it??

do I need to get a new potty maybe? I just got the standard one from asda

Anyone?

My friend swears by the course from big little feelings- look them up on Instagram. They have a course you can buy that she said was excellent and I plan on doing the same for my stubborn toddler. They set out a clear plan of action and step by step guide. Might be worth a look!

My ds was 3 weeks off starting nursery at just about 3...dry within days. He was my last dc and learned eventually that trying when they aren't ready is absolutely bloody pointless.

Just forget all about it and wait. DS was 3 and 1 month old when we started. At 2 and a half was still very much against trying.

Let him sit on the potty with pants on if he wants just to get used to it. No point forcing it if he won’t go as it’ll probably just make him even more reluctant. He’s only 2.5, there’s no huge rush. You can leave the potty out for him to get used to the idea of it and try again in a few months.

I would just follow him around everywhere while he has bare bum time then the second he starts weeing on the floor quickly shove the potty underneath them. Even if just a tiny bit of wee goes in the potty make a huge fuss, chocolate treats etc. This is how it started with both my kids. Exhausting following them everywhere with the bloody potty but was needed for them to make that connection. After that they just started gradually making their own way to the potty over time.

yeah so we’ve just been I’d say educating? So I’ll get him to sit on the potty random points throughout the day, speak about the toilet wee/poo, bring him with us

we practice pulling pants up and down and he wears underwear over his nappy (stopped with vests as he’s too tall! So they’d be stretched but also baggy) and we speak about wet/dry nappies and I ask him to tell me etc

but then I seen something online from someone doing a potty training course saying you have to do it you can’t be inconsistent and just speak about it??? And that you just have to donit

but I feel he’s not ready yet, but also don’t want to confuse him???

so hard knowing what to do!!!!

Stop. He's not ready yet, you're just going to cause future problems if you carry on. Revisit in a month or two

He's still young. I'd park it and try again in 6 months.

Throw the potty away and go straight to the toilet.

strip him from the waist down and take him to the toilet every time. If you get the toilet training in 3 days book, you’ll crack it 👌🏻

So can he just not be ready right now?

I see so many saying this isn’t a thing you just have to train them and I hear people like oh my son was 2y 3 m 2 y old etc so I feel like he’s so old? Just wracked with guilt worrying I’ve left it too long and that we’re regressing

Ah I thought my boy was ready but he just wasn't. He started showing signs at 2.5 but he just wasn't ready for the potty. I ended up putting too much pressure on it and it caused me stress. Just wait a bit longer, he's got plenty of time to pick it up. My boy was a few months past 3 when he suddenly grasped it

Apologies if this is jumbled as I'm really fucking tired. My eldest is disabled, we started training him at the appropriate time but it took much longer. My youngest was around 11 months at the time, he loved to use the eldests potty, he would treat it like a game. He would wee on a potty from 12 months happily but wouldn't poop until 2 years. He was still shy of 3 years when he got out of nappies. But when he did he was dry night and day from the get go.

We waited for him to be ready. Utterly ready to relinquish everything he'd ever known and be comfortable. When he wanted pants he was dry for life.

My eldest had and still has issues with toileting. For him it's sensory.

We never pushed either child, just encouraged.

I'd suggest rather than thinking about age and toilet training you have a look up about the physical development a child needs to be able to do it.