totally over sensitive son

[3kidsisquiteenuff]

my ds is nearly 10 now and gets so worked up shaking and screaming if he thinks he has done something wrong or if there is something scary on t.v or on the internet.
i do always keep an eye on what he sees and he is fine with things like star wars and doctor who ,it seems to be real life events that spook him.do you think he will grow out of it ?

buy this book, or borrow it from your local library.

I can't really give any more advice, as my sensitive little one is younger than yours. I found the book HUGELY helpful - even just to know that we weren't alone, and she is not unique.

There are loads of parents on here with sensitive kids, so you will probably get some good advice from someone else.

thanks sqonk but you didnt give me the title of the book

sorry - if you click my words it will take you to the Amazon page where you can buy it.

It is called "The Highly Sensitive Child - Helping Our Children Thrive When The World Overwhelms Them" by Elaine Aron.

thanks im a computer virgin as you can probably tell

mmm... just a tidge

Are you new to mumsnet then?

yep does it show?

only a little bit. How are you finding it so far? Have you dabbled in chat yet?

My DS is sensitive too but a lot younger (just about to turn 3)- I recently bought the book Squonk recommended (thank you!) and am finding it very interesting and reassuring that we aren't alone. It's also made me realise I too am in the same "sensitive" category- or at least was as a child- and that DS seems to have inherited a lot of these traits from moi. I had always seen such sensitivity as a disadvantage (we get lots of stares when we're out and DS is cowering under me when a plane goes overheard or a new unusual/loud noise is heard) but realise it has many advantages too. I am still learning how to deal with his sensitivity but glad to find it isn't as rare as I'd thought and his fears of loud noises etc. not due to something I might have inadventently done when he was tiny (yep...the guilt of parenting eh). Ramble over. Hope someone with more experience comes along and in the meantime really recommend the book! xxx

squonk what chat? im confused??

Blinkin eck 3kids! You are such a newbie!! Let Squonk and I sponsor you.....go to the Last Hour sign atthe top of this page and you'll see all of the threads that are currently having exchanges on - Chat is a group of threads that deal of "life and more" rather than specific topics.

AND

the book is highly recommended - I too have an HSC dd, aged 8 and it was googling HSC that brought me to MN. For my deep sins.

having siad this, I'm not sure the author is dealing with the sensitivities you describe. You're suggesting that he scares easily and has trouble being comforted. Whereas HSC as a 'concept' is more to do with being highly sensitive to environment and feelings of others, as I have read it.

It's tough to tell from a brief note on how well your ds may develop. Iam guessing you'll have to find out what is at root to his anxieties??

pan, did you see this?

3kidsisquiteenuff - click on these words and you will be magically transported to chat - pick a subject that takes your fancy and dive in

I think that you have described at least some of the symptoms of an HSC in your first post, and the book will be valuable in letting you know how best to deal with him when he gets scared of things.

My little girl is always the first to climb the highest climbing frame at the park, yet is frightened of fluff and feathers (when I say frightened, I mean absolutely terrified!)