Hi so after two bits of advice really.
super long post. Sorry!
I have a four year old, starting school in sept. We have just undergone a big- stressful house move. 4 hours from our home to be in a smaller house so we can be closer to our family again. So trying to downsize whilst in the house. On top of that I’m 36 weeks pregnant, high risk with really bad PGP pain so currently walking to the toilet makes me want to cry most days. This all has led to my daughter well - raging.
she was at nursery but after the move she now doesn’t have nursery. We are slowly working through the boxes but I can’t lift a lot and get out of breath super quick. We’ve had to get rid of quite a bit of furniture and all the rooms are smaller so it’s taking its time. My husband works full time and saving his holiday for baby arrival. He tries to help but he’s worn out.
slowly in the last few weeks we have noticed DD rage. Started as little things, being more mean to family when they come round. What was once being sassy is just rude and blatant ignoring. She pretends me and her dad aren’t here when family are here and they have to play her game for hours or she screams. She won’t help tidy up, throwing her toys everywhere. She has now resorted to hitting and kicking me when she becomes angry. It’s relentless. Repeating herself 10 times even though you are answering her everytime. Sticking her tongue out and spitting. Screaming at the top of her lungs when we say no. This child is just not mine.
I tried taking her food shopping, wouldn’t listen to me and began screaming outside. I had to carry her and the shopping to the car as she wouldn’t walk across a car park. We went uniform shopping and she was throwing things and screaming. Food shopping with me was our weekly thing, she has been good with me every week - until now. Now I’m scared to take her out alone.
i think she’s bored, and the guilt is strong. I don’t know how to entertain her when standing up hurts. I have four weeks left of the worst pregnancy ever and I am counting down the days. I’m back on referral for physio but exhausted all methods so even if I did get in soon the next on the list is crutches.
Local soft play is way to big, every time we’ve taken her she won’t go unless someone goes in with her. Park is 10 minute walk with no parking - not far but I’m worried I can get worse and struggle to come home. Also she won’t let me sit down. I have to do everything with her. No aquarium or zoo’s nearby. Lots of classes and clubs around won’t accept under 5. No nursery would take her for 5 weeks. Every activity she gets bored quickly and just makes a mess. I have got new play dough and things. The weather has been so up and down. I’m just really feeling lost. She seems to be getting worse daily, this isn’t my daughter. She’s not happy I know she isn’t and I don’t know how to fix it.
please hold the judgment. I’m trying really hard. I’m so tired and I don’t want to make her worse