Putting baby in own room

[Firsttimemumsteph]

Just wanting to hear some of your experiences with putting your baby in their own room. Obviously it is highly recommended to wait until your baby is 6 months before putting them in their own room. But every baby is different.

What was your experience with this? How old was your baby when you did it? What was the outcome? Was the baby okay with it? Etc.

thank you!

Think they both went in their own rooms around 14 months.

Are you thinking of moving your baby?

I mean, I don't think the "every baby is different" is relavant to the SIDS risk?

DS1 was in his own room at 9 months ish as we kept waking him when we came in. DS2 gets distraught if he wakes up and can't see us so he's still in the same room at 15 months.

6 month and 8 months. I waited until at least 6 months due to the guidelines on avoiding SIDS

Yeah we're just trying to get some information and figure out what works well for our baby and for us as well. She's not a bad sleeper at all but just has a couple of nights where she struggles to sleep. My husband snores very loud and we constantly have to try to be quiet. The littlest noise will wake her up

You do know why it's recommended to wait until they're 6 months don't you?

What age is your baby?
Has your dh explored ways of helping with the snoring?

3 days! Baby's room door was next to mine. I could almost see the cor from my bed.

How old is your baby?

8 months for one, a year for the other.

6.5 months with my youngest. I waited until she was off night feeds as otherwise it would have been further to go to feed her haha!
it seems like a long time but really it isn’t in the grand scheme of things! They are much more robust at 6m+ so worth waiting imo (and not just my opinion, also as per all evidence and guidelines).

yes you’ll have people on here saying it was fine for them but I wanted to do everything I could to reduce Sids risk.

My baby is 4 months - I know guidelines say 6 months I'm not making any decisions I just want to hear other people's experiences

Sounds like you just want someone to tell you it’s ok.

It’s not because of the SIDs risk.

Can your husband sleep in a different room and you sleep in with baby?

About seven months for both of mine. My bad sleeper became a good sleeper from that first night in her own room. My good sleeper stayed the same (one wake up per night).

I did break some of the safe sleeping rules when eldest was suffering with unmedicated silent reflux, so I'm not in any position to judge - but I wouldn't be expecting to be getting a good night's sleep with a 4 month old.

She's already sleeping through 7pm-4.30am which is really good! Most of the time she only wakes to be soothed back to sleep and only occasionally she'll want a feed. But she's already doing so well

No like I said I'm just wanting to hear everyone else's experiences and make my own conclusions

Isn't the NHS guidance, based on rigorous scientific research evidence, enough for you?

About 7 months both times.

DH was a difficult bedroom companion for baby no2 (he’d broken his leg so shifted around noisly). So he moved to the spare room.

Not everyone has to follow NHS guidelines 🙄 you do what YOU feel is best as a parent and seeking advice from others is super helpful.

6.5 months. Baby was waking only once most nights by that point. Slept much better once in own room as it had got to the point where us coughing, turning in bed etc was disturbing them. But I wouldn't have considered moving before 6 months due to SIDS guidelines. As per PP, every baby is not different when it comes to what is considered safe sleeping conditions. It's the 'noise' from parents in the room that is in part thought to be a protective factor (baby doesn't go in to too deep a sleep). Having said that if your partner is stopping the baby from sleeping/is waking them then the partner could consider moving to another room.

18 months 🫣

Our ds2 is 3 months and we will move him earlier but certainly not until after 6 months due to SIDS risk

My dd was 2 when she went into her own room but I'd be asking my partner to sleep elsewhere rather than risk a baby under 6 months in another room. I also wouldn't have been happy or able to get any sleep away from my baby at night at 4 months. It'll likely impact your sleep massively getting up in the night to feed.

Of course no one has to follow guidelines, but as someone whose work feeds in to producing health related guidelines (and hence I know just how much work goes in to both the guidelines and the huge body of research that underpins them) it's really depressing when someone decides to listen to a random persons anecdote rather than the evidence based recommendations. This particularly bothers me in relation to child health as children are completely at the mercy of their parents' decisions.

Between 35 and 25 years ago, DC1 aged 18 months as I only had one bedroom, DC2 and DC3 at 8 weeks when they started sleeping through the night.

DD was about 12/13 months when we moved her to her own room. I think 4 months is far too soon but I understand you may be struggling as it’s a hard age. My daughter suffered with bad reflux and the 4 month regression was just awful for us as she only slept in 40 minute intervals all night for weeks so I do empathise but try to push through - it’s just not safe yet. DS is coming up to 9 months and we are thinking of moving him across in the next month or two. They are only this little for such a short time and won’t need this level of support overnight forever. My daughter is a wonderful sleeper now and I never thought I would say that, she’s 2 and a half. Hang in there!

@Firsttimemumsteph "But every baby is different"

Not when it comes to SIDS.