Driving with my son is dangerous

[RosiePosey33]

I have a 3 nearly 4 year old son and I find driving with him is becoming more and more distracting and sometimes dangerous.

He talks constantly, doesn't give himself a break and I find it really hard to concentrate. I've told him this. I've said mummy needs to concentrate when I'm driving but he constantly says 'mummy' 'mummy' 'mummy, look' 'mummy, turn around and look'

I've told him I cannot turn around when I'm driving as it's dangerous but he still goes on and on.

I've tried giving him some small toys to play with but he eventually drops them and then it's mummy can you get my toy. Mummy! Mummy! I've tried playing games with him like eye spy or giving him a mission to spot so many things but I get a running narrative.

I feel like when I'm trying to park the car I'm going to end up bumping into someone as I cannot concentrate.

It's getting worse. Also if myself and my husband are in the car and trying to talk to if I'm telling him where something is my son just buts in all the time and it's usually something ridiculous like look a tree.

The other day for example we were in a new area going to a farm park and I was trying to tell my husband about the next turn and my son was just saying daddy daddy daddy daddy daddy daddy Listen to me daddy!!!

We then missed the turn off and it added another 15 minutes to our journey.

Help!!

@Suzieandthemonkeyfeet

Do it on the short ones if it’s needed too. There is no point in telling him off whilst you’re driving and making the journey shitty.

Ah, I see. Can't parent the child, so shove an iPad in front of their face to shut them up.

Try playing I Spy

My 2 are the same except they argue now. I've learned to tune them out mainly but if they are really being a nuisance I tell them to be quiet quite forcefully.

The problem is if you start stopping he'll quickly realise he can disrupt trips you need to go on but he doesn't care about. Kids aren't daft.

Is he like this at home - non stop
Or ignoring you

I the car

Zone out

I have stop talking /shish for a minute while mummy Concentrates

Let's play the quiet game - who can Be the quietest for longest )love that game) 😂

Assume starting school
Sept if 4 he will need to learn to be quiet when teacher is talking and not interrupt

So he must be like this at other times what are you doing about it?

@UnusedUsername a taxi screen would be ideal 😆😅

@Tel12 no definitely not but it's amplified in the car because I'm trying to concentrate

@Doveyouknow I actually saw. Julia Donaldson audio book series today. I think I might order it

@KnickerlessParsons we do :(

@Blondeshavemorefun I know! I've mentioned it to his nursery too as he is non stop with the talking. I feel bad but sometimes I just have to say shut up!

Today for example we were out in a restaurant and he just kept going on and on and on and I said people are here to have a nice quiet lunch. He just asks the most ridiculous things for the sake of speaking.

He will say things like oh look mummy that shop has the door open to let the air in. Then why does that shop have the door open mummy? And I'll say you've just answered your own question or he will say mummy look that girl is running across the road. Why is she doing that? I have to say I don't know I'm not in her head. And I'll get but why?

With 2 adults - one sits in the back with him.

With 1 only the driver as an adult, put him in the front and turn off the airbags. Yes it's legal, and it worked well for us, after we realised that ds was always much happier in the van (front seats only) than in the back of the car.

Play music in the car that he likes? I used to do this and we’d sing along. As they get older it’s great ( assuming they develop good taste 😂).