Daughter only wants her dad

[Armdjm]

Hi,

im just trying to find anyone that has gone through/is going through the same situation to make me feel better than I do right now.

I have a 17 month old daughter, she’s always been a ‘daddy’s girl’ and she went through this same phase at around 11 months where all of her separation anxiety was with my husband and she didn’t want me for anything. it lasted what felt like a lifetime then stopped.

I have just gone through a miscarriage so during this time my husband has done a lot with our daughter while I’ve been recovering/trying not to constantly cry in front of our little girl. In doing this she has gone back in the same phase, does not want me, won’t go to bed for me, if she wakes up unsettled which she is at the minute (normally sleeps through) she is hysterical if I go in and only wants her dad.

It is breaking my heart, I know people make jokes like ‘enjoy it while it lasts’ but I’m really struggling with it

This destroys you but they do phases of this. She will come back to you and will be her everything. Just keep this in your head and try to be happy that she has an amazing relationship with her daddy.

Sorry about the miscarriage and the feelings of rejection. Just be available whenever you can and keep getting involved, try to spend family time all of you together. I am sure it will pass, just make sure she knows you are there for when she needs/wants you. Good luck!

My DD was a massive daddy's girl and would always choose him over me - tbh it lasted for years. She's now 16yo and I have a really good, close relationship with her.

Thank you so much for all your replies! I love her relationship with her dad I probably just feel it harder at the minute after the miscarriage and me being a bit more stepped back I feel guilty!

My son is a complete daddy's boy. Has been since about a year old (born July 2020 so during Covid) and even now at just turned 4 he prefers dad over me. It used to really upset me. And sometimes it still does. But I also look at it different. Dad is the fun, easier going, play rough parent. Im the one who is more routine, more likely to enforce rules harder, I'm the 'no' parent only because I worry so much about their safety, hygiene, feeding routine, sleep etc

But I know that he loves me still. He tells me 'I love you mummy' but never says it to his dad. And he's a kid, of course he may have a a preference. It does change occasionally but not for very long 😂 but I just use that time to get other shit done!

Don't beat yourself up, it's nothing you've done

Mine was like this. I was upset at first but then realised I'm getting a break so take advantage of it! Now at 5 he loves us equally but differently. He knows I'm the boss!! Part of it is based on seeing his father less.