I am being too sensitive about other mums

[Laurahenry]

I'm in the school WhatsApp, there's generally chat ongoing though out the year. Ive noticed whenever ive commented on something or try to join in the chat stops for a while until someone posts something new. Even sometimes the original poster will like comments except mine. Starting to feel paranoid. Im not really friends with any of the mum's outside school, at birthday parties and pick up I will say hello, smile sometimes chat one on one or in a group but doesn't lead anywhere. We don't meet anyone outside school except class parties. I don't feel I know anyone well enough to message them privately so all chat is in the group. When I post something unless it's a direct question no one messages back really, if its a question its just answered by one person and that's the end. Is it me? It must be as ive seen other people's posts be a lot more engaged with. Anything I can do or just mute the group? Its definitely making me feel worse

I mean it seems pretty rude for no-one to reply, but equally, if it's a whole class whatsapp, is it possible everyone thinks someone else will reply? Like that Bystander Intervention thing where people tend to be less likely to help in an emergency situation when more people are around, as they presume someone else will help.

I've just seen that people do reply when you ask a question though. People are quite busy, especially parents of young kids, so I don't think it's surprising that once one person replies others don't feel the need to answer, your question has been answered.

It is really hard to make friends at the school gate though so I feel your pain. You can always mute the chat and re-add it when needed. Especially now as it'll be very quite with it being school holidays.

Try not to let it get to you. I have three children at school and the whatsapp groups for each one are very different in tone. And it might be that people in the class know each other more already so are more jokey on the group, which can make you feel left out unintentionally.

Instead of asking a question, post an incorrect statement, for example, pe is on Tuesday. Then you'll be flooded with people correcting you.

I have this same exact issue except it's a Facebook group. Let me guess, you're new?

The mums who run our Facebook group are awful and decided that the new Romanian mum who requested to join, must be a "European spammer" simply because she had a foreign surname and posted to warn everyone not to accept any requests from her. When I politely pointed out that she was indeed a new mum in the class who had just moved here from Romania with her English husband, I was booted from the group! 🙄

As for the playground, my DD is new at the school and not one single parent has approached me to chat and they all have their existing little cliques, so I'm the only parent stood alone every afternoon

Thanks for the responses, I've not muted the group but I don't really post or check it anymore. I think it wasn't great for my mental health and as long as DC is invited to parties etc im not too concerned. Im hoping next school year he'll have a few playdates or maybe I can reach out to some Mums privately, just feel bad DC missing out with meet ups over the summer break but equally can't face the stress of reaching out in the group and no one responding!