It says it all in the title really. It seems that my husband decided a while ago that we are no longer compatible and has been pushing me away ever since (see my other post on his most recent actions if you need to!) He has no interest in a trial separation or a separation where we would try and see if we want to reconcile after so many months even.
The first step is his moving out to a rented property which will be happening in the next few weeks, once he's found somewhere and my soon to be 8yo daughter's birthday is over. Then we will sell another property we own and put that money towards a house for me to move into, I cannot afford the mortgage on my own on the house we live in currently but it make sense for me to stay for now as it's coming up to summer holidays and I will be looking after the kids the most.
So a lot of gradual transitions coming up, my son has a feeling that something is wrong but isn't sure. The news that we are not staying together will crush him, he's 10yo but has always been sensitive. So best way to tell them? Things to include/avoid? Resources you can point me towards that you have found especially helpful in this scenario (a google search was quite overwhelming!)? Things to look out for in my kids that might mean they are not handling it as well as they seem? When to tell them - when my husband is leaving or give them a few days to get used to the idea first?