When do tantrums end? (Or reduce??)

[NatMoz]

I have a 2.5 year old daughter and she is at our most challenging age with her yet.

Tantrums are absolutely epic. It is always if we stop her doing something she wants. This could be taking her away from a playground, stopping her falling into a duck pond, stopping her impaling herself on a cocktail stick by taking it away etc

She is so stubborn and headstrong. Sometimes she will try and nip us in retaliation to spoiling her fun.

Please tell me this doesn't last forever? Will she be better at 3 years old? She can't get worse!!! I don't want to wish away the rest of this year but i feel like i am until she hits the magical aged 3 and is over these terrible twos.

My friend's child will just say 'ok' and leave a playground peacefully with no agro while we have to carry her out screaming, even if we say 'one more go down the slide' etc.

Bump! Anyone😭

its very rare but I’ve been known to have my moments in my 40’s

I hate to tell you but you’re heading into ‘threenager’ stage. It absolutely does get better but you really have to experiment with how you’re managing it. For my dd it worked to give her the illusion of choice (sometimes bribery just make sure you’re offering things that are preferable to you) and say something like ‘ok, one more slide and then we have to go home and get tea would you like shepherds pie or a boiled egg?’ Obviously if you’re desperate you have to bust out something far more appealing - do you want to watch bluey or peppa pig? - but be warned there will be times that just won’t wash and you have to console yourself that they’ll probably sleep well!

your friends dc sounds lovely, but trust me, there will be times you’ll be the envy of another parent over something their dc ‘just won’t do’. This stage feels like forever but it really isn’t. They turn into (almost) reasonable humans in the not to distant future.

Give big little feelings a follow on instagram. They're a mum duo who have a lot of tips regarding toddler tantrums etc, and so far i've loved their advice for my very headstrong one. Our terrible twos started at one, she has huge feelings and can act out if we don't set boundaries in stone. Explaining what will happen when you get to the park for example is really helpful (you have X time and STICK TO IT). When they know that the timing is flexible they will rebel. Hold the line and they won't. There was a transition when we started doing this and she fought us for about 2-3 days, then accepted it. Threats don't work with toddlers in my experience, they don't understand losing TV time etc. The consequences for not leaving have to be related to the activity. "You aren't leaving the park when I ask, I'm going to pick you up now and carry you out. We will try again tomorrow". Keep it simple, words to a minimum. Some people use stopwatches too for literal countdowns so there is a clear cutoff. If you stick to what you say, they will understand that you mean business, if you change the times, extend, flaff around etc, they will push boundaries. This isn't a fix for everything, but it does help in our experience. Ours got a lot better at 3 and better again at 4, but the threenager phase is challenging.

3 is much worse for tantrums. Sorry! My 4.5 year old barely has tantrums now, just the odd one. It's so hard when you're in the middle of the tantrum stage but I promise you'll get out the other end!

For DD it was around 6

4

Absolute the same here. Tantrum started around 20 months, but she's 2.5 now and the last 3 or 4 months they've been off the scale. She is absolutely lovely one moment, then absolutely awful, on a loop. More awful than lovely a lot of days tho. I'm hoping 15 month sister won't go as awful...