Come and judge my horrid prenting.

[LynetteScavo]

I know you morning folk are harsher that the evening folk, so tell me just how bad a mother I am. (on a scale of 1-10 if you like)

DS1 (9) has just had an argument wiht DS2 over the playstation. He came down and shouted at me ( I asked him to talk so I could understand what he was saying) he then stromed off, threw things down the stairs, pulled his bedroom curtains down (nodamage done they go back easily) then came down and shouted at me and stomped back up stairs to slam door and throw some more things around his room.

At this point I lost it, went up and shouted at him, and threw a bag of toilet rolls down the stairs, shouting he was not the only one who could throw tantrums. He looked scared.

I now feel reall awful.

totally normal behaviour in my house

dont worry about it

I would have been tempted to throw him down the stairs (kidding ofcourse)

It's probably given him something to think about!
At least it wasn't him you were throwing down the stairs!!
I think I would have done more than shout at my ds if he had done that in our house

ten out of ten for dealing with it

Seriously, they have to realise that you are human and if it's ok for him to have a tantrum and chuck things around, then it's ok for you to do it too.

Hopefully you've given him a bit of a shock and he'll think twice next time.

You didn't swear at him (I presume) you didn't hit him or kick him or chuck him out of the house.

Ok, so you lost it, we all do that. I have reacted exactly the same way as you when I have made a conscious decision to do it.

Don't beat yourself up. You (hopefully) have taught him a valuable lesson.

How old is he?

You threw toilet rolls?
Toilet rolls?

You probably looked like a bit of a loony, but hey, you gave your DS an insight into how he looks when he loses it.

Get him to pick the things up that he threw and tidy his room.
And you pick up those heinous toilet rolls.

I sometimes get shouty and flingy too.

I threw my hairbrush on the floor the other morning and the handle snapped off.

< pathetic and immature >

So instead of having the effect of shocking ds into behaving better he just dissolved into giggles.

He's 9. I've been up and given him a hug and told him I love him even though I'm horrid. (No response fron him - but then he's on the playstation)

I'm still feeling shacky.

Or maybe shaky.

I think I would impose a playstation ban until he had tidied up and apologised, tbh.

You've made amends, maybe he should too?

hehe.

do joint sorrys and picking up of things thrown . and talk about something else.
pah, this wont kill him.

but dont do it often or youll have to escalate to get anywhere near same reaction. you might have to rip the actual toilet off the wall at some point... you dont want that

oh goodness no PS till its tidied.

lynetteScavo are you me?!?

isn't it your ds that likes heavy things in pillow cases? buy him a few tins of beans?!?

you've done your apologising now move on and don't give him the upper hand all day

Unplug the PS and calmly tell him why you threw the toilet rolls down the stairs.

My ds is 10 and is an absolute nightmare at the moment.

I'm putting it down to hormones jangling.

His not mine.

It's not DS's behaviour that is the problem today... he's done alot worse...and is about to attend an anger management course.

It's my behaviour that is the problem today. I'm getting some sick pleasure about the toilet rolls on the hall floor and am refusing to pick them up!

Loo rolls are soft and unbreakable and won't hurt anyone so even in a moment of rage, you obviously had your Mummy filters on... award yourself a 'good mother even at breaking point' badge!

you can't kick yourself over this, you lost your cool momentarily and you've realised this and sorted it

very easily done imo and mine are only 4.9yrs and 23 months

right, well in that case ds should come and calmly turn mn off and explain that you need to say sorry and pick up the loo rolls and then do something healthy out in the fresh air.

arf

(am being flippant because you are being hard on yourself and you wont stop sulking till you can be a bit kinder to self)

You are quite right Lily!

But I am enjoying my sulk!

No that doesn't rate highly at all on the bad parenting scale. Your DS was well out of order. When it's all calmed down you can have a nice little chat with him

Sometimes it does you good to scream like a banshee.

You should have thrown the loo rolls at him

LOL sorry but that really made me laugh I have done similar things myself and often we end up laughing about it by bedtime.

just thought you might like to know that ds1 (4) has just been having an almighty tantrum bacuae i made him share the last choc croissant with his brother... and then when i put him outside the room he slammed doors a lot, and finally wnt up to his room, went quiet, then came out and started tapping the bookend he had broken on puropse against the glass bannister thing, so would hear him and look.
i then got v angry... almost contained it and walked away, but then didnt. and ejected him bodily from the house in his socks.
he came back in but hes stuck in the front hall bit as he cant open the inner door.

so there. i am at least as rubbish as thou.

I do stuff like that.

A few weeks back DD refused to carry two tops upstairs for me because she was "scared" (roughly translated into couldn't be arsed... she is often scared when she doesn't want to do something).

PMT and a long day kicked in... I ended up firing clothes over the bannister asking if she was scared now

She did carry the clothes up next time though

Pick the loo rolls up and throw them again, then keep throwing them until they break (could take a while).
At least you didn't throw his playstation down the stairs. I am always doing stuff like that, I now have to tell dds to go in another room until mummy has calmed down.
I think you will have taught him a valuable lesson, that you to have your breaking point and there is a line which he should not cross.
Have a great rest of the day and forget about it.

lol at this thread - essential reading for all parents of 9 year old ds's.