My lovely girl. She’s so funny and bright and sparky.
But she gets very angry. She gets particularly wound up at any suggestion she might have done something wrong, or if anyone is potentially mad at her. Very defensive. Very insecure. It is becoming clear to me that she is hugely lacking in self confidence.
I am desperate to help her. I’ve had self confidence issues my whole life and I’ll be damned if she’s going to struggle with this too. Also, it means it is incredibly difficult to explain to her when she’s done something wrong (eg if I feel she has been unkind to her sister) - she will go off the deep end and scream and yell and will not listen to reason. Even just something like asking her to go to bed at night can be met with rage if it’s something she doesn’t want to do. This is exacerbated when she is anxious, i think. She generally
becomes a lot easier/calmer during school holidays (she likes school but she cares far too deeply about what her friends think of her, and that seems to really stress her out).
And yet she is so loving at. She’s very attached to me, she’s like my little shadow. I can’t bear that she’s unhappy.
Wondered if anyone has any insight?