Hi, I'm not sure what I'm asking for or why I'm posting, perhaps someone who has had a similar experience or any advice. Or maybe just some reassurance that this is just a phase and it will get better.
Some background, I have a 2y5m LO and a 6mo. Straight after our baby was born our 2yo was of course a little jealous, wanted us to put her down a lot, would cry if I picked her up etc. There were even a few slaps to the baby but after a couple of months we all seemed to settle into a good routine with very few 'incidents'. Now my 2yo has always been a 'daddys boy' and even moreso since our baby, I know this is to be expected and I was prepared for this. What I wasn't expecting is his behaviour now...
So when his Dad is at work (full time) it's just me, him and his sister, he is (mostly) a joy to have, we do lots of things, our days are busy, he eats well, sleeps well and generally is very lovely with his sister. I would say he was all round quite a happy child. BUT add my mum (he is very close to my mum) or his dad into the mix and he is a very different child towards me. He will hit me, just shout no, he will have earth shattering tantrums and he will even scream if I touch any of his Dad's things, phone, wallet, even his mug that he normally drinks from. I can't touch him when my Mum or his Dad are around. I can't get him in/out of the car/pram. He will scream Nanny or Daddy and he will hit me if I continue to do it. If I say he can't do something his first reaction is to scream and then he will take a swipe at me. Again this is only when his Dad is in the house at the time.
I just don't know how to deal with this situation, does anyone have any advice? I understand at two years old they go through a lot of changes and transitions. And I wasn't expecting it to be an easy ride by any means but I feel like it's something I'm doing/not doing that could be causing this.
Thanks if you've got this far!!