Hi,
Looking for some advice about my assertive (bossy!) nearly 6yo DS. I have noticed more and more that he wants things done his way. He wants his friends to do what he wants them to do and wants them to play what he wants to play. At parents evening the teacher also mentioned it! Just this morning he said his two friends told the teacher about him because he was trying to make the groups ‘fair’ at play time when playing basketball as there were more in one than the other. He also tells the teacher if someone says/does something wrong (which yes is fine if it’s terrible/harmful etc) but I don’t want him to be seen as a grass!
He is definitely going through a funny phase, he’s quite grown up and knowing for his age, just as I was as a child and strong willed. He doesn’t like being told what to do, doesn’t like plans changing and doesn’t listen very well!
Not sure how to deal with this really!
I had a chat and said if he keeps telling others what to do, they won’t want to play with him and that they can make decisions about what they want to do/who they play with etc. I have reminded him if I ask him to do something I shouldn’t have to ask a hundred times! I also reminded him that if I tell him not to do something it’s usually because it’s dangerous etc etc. I don’t want to punish him for this behaviour but feel it’s the only thing that may have an effect i.e not listening when told to do something means you can’t watch the TV etc. Not really sure how to deal with the school issue where he is telling others what to do?!
HELP!!!