Sleeping through the night

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my Baby is five months old and doesn’t sleep through the night . He still wakes up a lot in the night to be breast fed. Feel like I’m doing something wrong . Should he be sleeping through the night now ????

Sorry but no your expectations are way off!! Mine slept through consistently from 17months ish

No. And he might not for many many months. He’s very very small still, who on earth has told you he should be sleeping through?

I have an almost 6 year old and 2 year old and still get up in the night! 5 months is tiny, they've been inside you longer than the outside world. It will get better in time, not much you can do about it now sadly. Both of mine turned a corner at age 1.

Agree that your expectations are a bit off. Our worst period of sleep was age 8-10 months with both of our children. Some children don’t sleep through until they’re well out of the baby stage. You’re not doing anything wrong x

No not at all, sleeping through the night anyway constitutes sleeping 5-6 hours in a row not 8-12 like some think, and at 5 months it’s absolutely normal and expected to still wake very frequently for feeds and comfort.

I got to a baby group and mums there was saying there baby sleeps through . Same as my sister in law as she has a four month old . I know every baby is different but just thought I was doing something wrong

No, perfectly normal for babies to wake through the night, especially breastfed. Great job on breastfeeding, keep it up mama!

Find some breastfeeding communities on Instagram - lucywebberfeedingsupport_ibclc, emmapickettibclc, thebreastfeedingmentor. Starting you off.

No, some do at this age, but the vast majority don't.

How often is he waking? By five months it would be normal to see them getting chunks of sleep and not waking every couple of hours like a new baby would.

Okay thank you for your advice I appreciate it

I'd say you need to lower your expectations.

I think the way they're fed is also not a factor. 2/3 of mine were formula fed and still didn't STTN until 1

Sorry op mine are 5 and 7 years and still wake in the night most nights.

And again sorry, but you're about to hit the 6 month sleep regression, and I'm sure there's one at 9 months, 12 months and 18 months. But mine could just be complete sleep thiefs 😅

Most children don't sleep through, its perfectly normal, if a bit wearing at times.

Thank you ☺️

Sometimes he sleeps for 4-5 hours at a time then after that it seems to be quit regular he’s waking up for a feed or comfort cuddle

My kids slept through from very early on. Would you like to know how? I have absolutely fuck all idea! There is no secret. We had no routine, no schedule and followed none of the books or advice. They just do what they want and you deal with the baby you're given.

If it is any consolation, DC1 screamed all day every day for six months until he was weaned. So it was still horrendous.

When people claim their baby 'sleeps through' take it with a pinch of salt. Some people define midnight until 5am as 'sleeping through' but i bloody well don't- being awake until midnight then up for the day at 5 would ruin me!

Our first slept 10 hours from 8 months. The second is 2 and a half and has never slept more than 4 hours in a row. You're not doing anything wrong but you should readjust your expectations

Yeah I know about the sleep regression he went through it a four months for a couple weeks

Mine was 3. Years not months

In my NCT group one baby sleeps through the night (like 9pm -7am) but one doesn't nap in the daytime. Another couple of mums said sleep through the night but they just weren't counting waking for feeds.

My oldest started sleeping through at 1ish. The youngest didn't sleep through until 4. On a good night she'd wake 2/3 times on a terrible night hourly. Don't expect them to do anything consistently for a few years even if she starts to sleep she might regress.

My 7 month old hasn't slept longer than 2 hours in his life 😅

Nope. Very very very normal.
My DS EB slept through at 22months of age. Before that he was waking for 1 - 3 feeds a night. And furing growth spurts he would wake 3 times. Other times once a night until weaned. Once weaned he would wake for comfort and water and by 24/25months slept through the night.

Look up Emma Pickett IBCLC https://www.emmapickettbreastfeedingsupport.com/
And https://breastfeeding.support/breastfed-baby-poop/
And
https://thebreastfeedingcompanion.com/

And also Dr Bill/William Sears www.attachmentparenting.org/william-sears

Saved me from PND

Please ignore sleep consultants. Even my Midwives said they are a load of BS.

You’re in what can be the trickiest time now! Many babies sleep is really broken around 4-5 months and then again around 9 months, and can often be linked to developmental leaps. Mine were about two before they slept through…but others do much better! Look up Lyndsey hookway for great normalising info. Also when breastfeeding, babies also wake up to connect with you, because you’re their comfort etc not just because they are hungry. It’s so hard but it did help me to think that evolution did this - babies who woke frequently and stuck to mom like glue had an advantage survival wise… try catch up on sleep by going to bed early, getting lie in in morning/weekends etc or whenever you can fit it in with your support network!

That's exactly what mine was like for the first 14 months. Then he all of a sudden started sleeping through from 5-5. Fuck knows how it happened as I was resigned to never getting a good sleep ever again 🤣 it's a rare occasion now where he'll wake in the night for a bottle but I don't mind, I'm just so bloody grateful he mostly sleeps through 😅 hopefully your little one does similar 🤞

My 3 yr old had slept through the night about half a dozen times. My 7 month old currently wakes more than he’s ever done, including when he was new born. I’m just rolling with it and hoping for the best. At least it’s summer so when we have uk get up at 5am it’s light 🙄