Aug / Sep second baby

[WolfMother326]

Hello,
Just looking for some advice.
My DS is 3 in mid August. He's very bright but we're a little anxious about next year when he starts school as he'll be just 4 and is quite a sensitive kid.
I'm now expecting a 2nd boy and my due date is 4 September, but I've been recommended an elective c section for 39 weeks, which would put the baby in late August.
I was asked if I have a preference for late August or early September and I'm of two minds.
Is it better to have both children be youngest in their class, or does it not really matter as children are all so different anyway?

I would definitely prefer a September baby if I had the choice.

Yes, I think most people would prefer a September baby, but having already got an August one, I wonder if it's somehow unfair to the elder one!

I have an aug and a sept baby. It hasn’t made any difference in the long run but the sept baby had an easier start to school life. It all evened out by the end of primary. I didn’t have a choice with mine but can totally appreciate the difficult decision when you already have an august baby! I remember wanting mine to come early in august so both kids had it ‘fair’.

maybe consider other things too like childcare costs. I’d probably opt for September if you can. Baby still could come early and then it’s out of your hands anyway

I am an August baby .. I would opt for September .

My Ds is end of April - technically summer born i think he would have found school easier if he was a year lower - socially and behaviour wise

You can always defer a year if you have a late August baby. But if you have the choice, I would choose the early September date every time.

IME, I genuinely burst into tears when it was suggested I be induced (pre-eclampsia) so that my first's birthday would be late August rather than the late September/early October I had been expecting. Fortunately it was then decided we could wait until I was term (early September) as there were no issues with growth or CTG and I was otherwise symptomless. If things had changed, ofc I would have acquiesced immediately to an induction/C-section no matter the date, but I'm forever grateful to have reached term and she has an early September birthday as a result. She's off to school this year, and turns 5 on her second day. Looking back at her this time last year, there was no way she was ready for school.

My daughter is August baby, start school in September aged 4 and a few weeks. I absolutely would not want her at home for another year. She is absolutely read for school and I would have sent her at Christmas if I could.
My sister is October baby and my mum has said she would have paid the school to let her start at 4 and she found that last year hard and my sister found reception a challenge as she was ahead of everyone else and the teacher had to give 2-3 times the amount of work of other people just to fill the same amount of time. This was to stop her going to play when the rest had barely started the work.
My mum is the last week of August, severely dyslexic and she suffered with starting school at 4 and it meant she was only in school until 14 (back in the day!)

I think I would chose an august date to be honest but be willing to consider deferring entry by a year to start school at 5 if this would be beneficial to the child