Just after some advice,
I have two children aged 2 and 9. The children’s cousin has a birthday party this weekend. However it is my weekend the auntie wants them to go with their dad to the party which is fine. However my two year old really struggles with change to the point he lashes out and has hours of emotional distress. I proposed their dad takes them to the party and keeps them overnight a pose to taking them for four hours and dropping them back. I know my 2 year old will struggle with this and it will be me that has to try and comfort him when he is out of routine and emotionally distressed. Their dad has said no and he wants to take them to the party and return them as he ‘has plans in the night’ I have communicated how this will effect him with no evaluation of how this will effect him he has responded with he will tell my eldest that the reason he can’t go to the party is because of me and he will show him the messages 🤦🏻♀️ I have said this is not appropriate and adult conversations are not for children to see.
How do I deal with this?! We are going to court in August for a child arrangements order too.