Moving the baby out of your room into own room

[alright]

what are the reasons you should delay this, at 10 weeks i feel ready to but someone mentioned to me cot death is increased

Yes, Fsid guidelines say baby should be in your room til 6 months. I think it's because the sound of your breathing helps regulate theirs.

i think its coz if theyre close to you you can hear if they get into difficulties and react quicker.

roomsharing reduces the incidence of cot death by half.

but why?? i cant find anywhere that says conclusively why? what about in the evening putting them to bed around 8 and being downstairs watching tv with a baby monitor? this is fine but during the night being in the next room not fine? i dont get it!

There are guidelines about Sids. Do what you feel is right for your family.

I think it's to do with the peak time for deaths being in the night not the evening?

This link below says "sleeping in a separate room is known to double the risk." It also gives references to follow up but I suspect they're technical articles.

www.fsid.org.uk/editpics/612-1.pdf

I suppose the question is "double the risk means from what to what"?

In 2004 the incidence was 0.5 deaths per 1000 births which prob equates to 1 every 2000 (maths is not my strong point).

I know that's what the statistics say, and we kept DD in our room for 3 months and now she's with DS - both our doors are open and I can hear even a yawn.

I have my own statistic though. Babies sleeping in their parents rooms, even if they sleep through the night, reduce sleep and sanity in one or both parents by about 95% because its like having a noisy farm animal in there with you and you wake at the slightest snuffle concerned that something is wrong, when it isnt.

it only says quality of sleep is somehow enhanced. its quite vague isnt it??

we didn't move our ds our til 5mo but felt it was way overdue by then (all of us waking each other up!), but were worried about the SIDS evidence. So we bought a monitor that also had a sensor pad, so if your LO stops breathing (God forbid) it sets off an alarm. It is an Angelcare monitor and about £60 i think, but gave us great peace of mind, think it was recommended in MN monitor reviews..
ds is 17 mo now and we still use it, ocassionally he does roll right into the corner and the alarm goes off but mostly its fine. That was our solution anyway!

Thankfully our dd was in our room when she was 8wks old. I'd put her back into her cot after a feed and gone to the loo. Dh (who had been asleep) was alerted by something. He thinks it was a slight one-off noise that didn't sound quite right. It was the only sound our dd made for the next few hours. She was struggling to breathe, fitted a couple of times and stopping breathing intermittently. We rushed her to a&e where they worked on her for over 1.5hrs before she stabilised. They had no idea what had caused what happened. Her medical records say she was a near-miss cot-death. If she had been in her own room, we wouldn't have known anything until the morning when it would have been too late.
She is now 13yo.

"what about in the evening putting them to bed around 8 and being downstairs watching tv with a baby monitor? this is fine but during the night being in the next room not fine?"

Actually the advice is that whenever the baby sleeps (naps or nighttime), until they are 6 months old, they should be in the same room as you.

My dd3 has only just gone into her own room tonight and she is nearly 7 months old.

My lo didn't go in his own room until 18 mths but that was because we didn't have a room for him and we had to wait until we moved. I bf him until 11 mths tho and he sometimes woke in the night still so tbh I found it easier with him in my room, I didn't have to get out of bed lol! I am pg again and will probably wait until -12 mths before putting new baby in with the other as no doubt she will be waking in the night for bf and I don't want to be trudging back and forwards in the night.

so what happens at the magic 6 months when then are ok to go in a seperate room, they learn to breathe properly is it? sorry for divvy questions im a total novice mum! i dunno anything about bringing up a baby,

Ds went into his own room at 4 weeks, DD was 3 weeks. If it feels right to you, do it.

DS1 was in our room till 11 months, DS2 still in our room he is 11 months tomorrow.
I think the research is quite well established, think its as MegBusset said babies regulate their breathing when they share a room with parents.
This was enough for me to follow the advice even if it means interrupted sleep for me/DH.

I always found sleeping in the same room (same bed even) as my daughter meant I got a much better night's sleep.

I wasn't worried that I wouldn't hear her and I didn't have to get up in the cold for feeds etc.

Nowadays she has a bedroom next to ours, with a door between them.

alright my understanding is that from around 5-6 months the risk of SIDS is naturally lower. Obviously there isn't a magical moment exactly 6 months after they are born.

People often say that they can hear the baby in a different room, but we waited until 6.5 months precisely for the reason that MegBusset gave - to do with the baby regulating their breathing with yours.

Obviously we all make the decisions we feel are right for our families and our babies, but for us that wasn't a risk we wanted to take.

Our DS was born in the October and we moved him into his own room just after that Christmas. Before that we were all waking each other up through the night, and I was basically not sleeping because I was so paranoid about hearing him breathe! His room was just opposite ours so we put him in there with both doors open, and the baby monitor on. We slept better and so did he. I think you really have to go with what feels right for your family, it sounds like everyone does it differently!