Hey everyone,
Just wanting an opinion. Me and my ex have a parenting agreement through the courts where he has access of our 14 year old two weekends a month. This is due to past issues with abuse as well as his work schedule. This was enstated in February of this year. Since that time, out of the 10 or 11 weekends he was to have access, on half of them, he made other plans and didn't exercise his parenting time at all or didn't make any plans with our kid until very last minute, didn't pick him up when he was supposed too etc.
For example, yesterday he was supposed to pick him up in the morning and instead he called him asking if he wanted to go golfing and our kid said no, so he didn't pick him up until about 4 pm so he could go golfing and whatever else. Then when picking he picked him up, he told me that next weekend he won't be taking him at all. I have other similar examples.
I want to address this but he is very unstable and hostile towards me so I'm not sure if I should just leave it alone. That said, I do feel it causes our kid stress because when the weekends with his dad are coming he doesn't ever know a plan and it's just uncertainty. As for me, I can't make plans or sometimes when I do, I have to change them because of him. My son would prefer not to go at all but this is kind of where we are at right now.
Thoughts?