Bedroom sharing

[Kaaldane]

Hello, just looking for some support. Recently moved to a two bedroom house (for reasons beyond our control) we have a 9 year old and a 6 month old. Currently the baby is im the room with us and will be for the next 6 months, our son is really eager to share a room with his sibling but I’m really worried that it’s not fair on him. I am reassured by the fact that baby will only be in there to sleep as will be downstairs with us all day/evening. Anyone share any support/advice?

That's a tricky one, as in the next few short years, I doubt your 9yr old will continue to be as enthusiastic about sharing a room with a baby and then a toddler – the night wakes and early mornings will likely continue well into his pre-teen and early teen years. Is this your long term home? I would plan to keep the baby in your room, I think.

Try them together when baby is ready and see how you go, I think. As you say, baby will only really be in there to sleep for the first year or two, so it will still mostly be your nine year old's space, although you may have to work out some agreement about naptime.

How big are the bedrooms? If it became a problem, is it feasible to put a divider, like a screen or a big kallax-type unit, in the biggest room to create two reasonably separate spaces?

Can't imagine how it would work at first as you will likely need to sleep train your child out of night wakings in the room that they're going to be staying in.

My son was reliably sleeping through by 1 ½ but that required sleep training in his room.

How big is your living room? I'd probably make a space for baby in there until they're out of a cot and in a toddler bed, then try sharing a room with older sibling.

Can you not sleep in the living room once the baby is old enough for their own room? I don’t think two kids of those he’s sharing, will work.

Exactly plus some kids just do not sleep through, my oldest only started sleeping through at 4 years old, my second started sleeping through at 6 years old 😩 my 15 month old is still waking up through the night repeatedly. So could be an issue as not every child sleeps through until much later on.