Myself and friend have babies under 1. She split up with her husband before she fell pregnant and had a few tinder flings and online relationships which is all she ever talked about even infront of her 4 year old daughter. Anyway 6 months after her marriage ended in a night of idiocy she fell pregnant with her ex husband. We were all supportive as there are worse things than a baby but her ex husband didn't want another baby and made it very clear at the start. During the pregnancy she started to show signs of not coping she sent her daughter to her dad's most days and just sat about the house all day. She's never had a job and has been on benefits since she was 16 so she literally had nothing to get up for and she still moaned which really got to me as I was working full time in a high pressure job in the NHS. Once the baby was born her ex husband yet again made it clear he wasn't really interested in having another baby although did show up for the birth and stayed at her house for around a week but as soon as he went home she was crying everyday screaming down the phone she couldn't cope. Again her daughter was at her dad's upto 5 nights a week. I was heavily pregnant but still went over on my days off to help look after the baby so she could get a sleep but every time I went over she went upstairs and sat on a phone call with a guy she met on tinder for hours at a time when I thought she should have been using that time to rest or shower etc but I never said anything and let her get on with it. I was going over to help out multiple times a week until I had my own baby. She's honestly been a nightmare she constantly screams at her older child. Leaves the baby to cry and her house is an absolute mess. I've tried to help as much as I can but I'm also exhausted and have PPD too. I've told her she needs to speak to her GP but she doesn't believe in antidepressants. I just feel she's not helping herself she sits in her house all day and doesn't even take the baby out a walk in the pram etc but moans all she does is cry and doesn't sleep etc she always throws it in my face that I have my husband here to help but he literally works shifts 40 hours a week nights and days so he's actually very rarely home and when he is he's sleeping for the next shift. I'm honestly at my wits end I feel like she's not helping herself and whenever I offer any advice it's thrown back at me. I really think she should speak to her GP about feeling so depressed but she just gets angry at me when I bring it up. I'm worried social services are going to get involved as her neighbours must hear her constantly screaming at the kids as well as her house and garden being an absolute hazard I know I sound judgemental but I'm honestly so exhausted with the full situation what should I do?