Advice please - should I let my daughter see her dad

[changingchaali]

My daughter's father hasn't seen her since she was a week old. She will be 4 next Monday.
I stopped the contact because he came here drunk during the day to see her and after that he never showed up when he said he would and never gave money for things when he said he would. Always had excuses.
I didn't want this for her so I blocked him after her first birthday

My daughter is very bright and has been asking why she doesn't have a daddy. She has told her nursery that he is dead (I've never said this to her) and walks around sad and today she has been going on about him all day.

I grew up without a father and I don't think it has affected me but she is seeing her half brother go off with his dad and asking lots of questions.

Do I explain that he isn't a good daddy, keep skirting around the truth or open the communication between them and let her know him? I'm so scared that he is going to let her down
She has two older sisters and 2 older brothers that she is missing out on but I don't want her to be disappointed

I'd appreciate some advice on this.

I have no personal experience of this, but you wouldn't want her to resent you later on in life. I would maybe get in contact with him if you can (without telling her) and see where the ground lies. He may be different now and want to, or he might be the same and not want to. At least then you know.

If he was bothered about seeing her, he would have . You blocked him, but he presumably knew where you lived, any parent who cared would have made the effort. So my gut says you made the right choice, and if you do re-establish contact he will almost certainly let her down again.
You could do whatxyz111 suggests and reach out without her knowing, to see what his response is. In the meantime you can tell her what you do know ( he has brown eyes and liked fixing motorbikes) but that you don't know where he is now. She will want to contact him one day, so I guess it will help if you at least keep tabs on where he is.

Thank you @xyz111

That is exactly how I feel @DelphiniumBlue - no effort made at all.