Right to be furious?

[mommyandmore]

My DD who is 2 years old suffers with allergies. So far she's tested positive for milk and dogs. On Sunday she was accidentally licked by a poodle and developed an allergic reaction on Sunday evening which we think was from the dog she came in contact with. We gave her piriton and it went down.

She was extremely unsettled Wednesday evening and at 4am I decided to take off her vest as she was scratching like mad and the I saw she was covered in hives. Again gave her piriton and it went down. She went to her childminder as usual and the CM calls at 4pm saying she was having another reaction and asked if she could administer piriton. She sent a photo of DD in her nappy sitting on the carpet and she looked terrible. She was covered in hives and her skin was so red and angry. I went to pick her up straight away. On my way there my husband said I should just check the CM hadn't had a dog there. I told him he was mad as she knows our DD is allergic.
It turns out she had a dog there on Tuesday with my DD there too. Where she had taken my daughter's clothes off to monitor her, she had hives all over the body - nappy area, all on her back and tummy and exposed areas like her arms etc. I've never seen anything like it. It makes me think it's what she has been in contact with that the dog has also been on.

I would never risk someone else's child being around a dog without the parents consent - you just never know with dogs and toddlers. Secondly I'm soooooo upset she never told us when our daughter is allergic! It's like making a peanut butter sandwich around someone who is allergic to nuts!
Am I overreacting or do I have every right to be pissed off? We are waiting to monitor DD over the weekend but I feel I need to say something to the CM. We've only used her for 3 weeks and this is really concerning for me.

Why on earth did you not tell her your child also had a dog allergy?? I’m sorry, but you’re equally in the wrong. You’ve put your own child at risk.

On a separate note, my child spent the first year of their life looking like your dc, one of their main allergies was dust - which is obviously everywhere. They did, very surprisingly, outgrow it.

You really needed to tell her explicitly about the dog allergy, if you didn't mention it and just listed it on the paperwork she probably didn't realise the severity.

She should have had a risk assessment about the dog being there I would have thought - our nursery owner brought her dogs in and there was a detailed risk assessment and we all signed a form about it.

The thing is, we did mention it but it was quickly overshadowed by her cows milk allergy. She is now saying we didn't say anything. The dog allergy was put into her paperwork which the CM read on her first day and she asked my husband about it.
I thought she would have to ask our permission for our child to be around animals so I didn't think any more of it.
The thing is, we have a dog. A small cavachon. When DD was tested the Dr, who is the best in his field told us the benefits outweigh the negatives of having a dog. Now I'm wondering if her allergies are much worse than we initially thought.

What we have done is rewash all of her clothes and we've dried them inside. Since doing that, she's had no further reactions. We are now thinking it might be pollen/air Bourne. We have a huge birch tree outside in the garden that has recently bloomed and we were drying clothes outside due to the nice weather.

Thanks for your comments. I appreciate we should have spent more time discussing dogs, I just never thought this would happen without our knowledge.

Well that’s a massive drip feed!!! You’re furious at the CM who had a dog visiting, but you also have your own dog!!!
The hives she had at 4am in the night were most likely from your own dog, or as you suggested a possible pollen reaction from clothes dries outside. Allergies to dog saliva / dog fur are generally instant, so I would doubt that your child has reacted to a dog they were in the vicinity of 12 hours earlier.
Im also amazed you have managed to get her tested - both my grandchildren are sensitive to allergens and aren’t able to be tested, it just doesn’t happen like that.

Hang on... you have a dog yourself?

So you had a pop at this woman when you had no idea what caused the allergy or even if it was your dog?!

OMG so you do not actually know that it was this CM dog that trigger the allergy because you have a dog yourself?
This is quite thr drip feed!

Right to be furious?

Eh no, you know you don't. You actually have a dog and are going off on one at the CM who you hadn't properly informed that your child has an allergy?

And now you're not sure it is a dog allergy but maybe pollen?

The CM will be well rid of you. Jesus Christ you are crazy lady

Poor CM. She's well right of you.

Should say well RID of you

This.

Really didn't think I'd end up on the CM's side on this one, but life is full of surprises.

Tbf to the OP, my DS has a dog allergy. We have a wire haired dog and he has no problem with her. However we can’t go to my cousins house, she has a boxer and DS breaks out in hives, including on his face/neck, within minutes of being in the same house. It can very much spend on the skin/hair type of the dog.

After your updates, no, you don’t have a right to be furious. This is on you and your poor management of your child’s allergies.

If your child is allergic to dogs and having reactions to other dogs you really need to get rid of your dog.

My childhood was miserable with random allergic reactions. When I left home and then went back I reacted as soon as my parents cats entered the room. My parents never even considered that the cats might have been the cause of my allergic reactions. An itchy face and skin is utterly miserable. I love cats and probably if I had one I would adjust but for me it is absolutely not worth the reactions even if they are infrequent. I also have hayfever and when it was hayfever season I was much more sensitive to the cat hair. So it could be that since the birch is in pollen they now aren't tolerating the dog in the home.

So you assumed DD reacted on Wednesday evening to a dog she met at CM on Tuesday? But nothing to do with your own dog?

I was totally on side with you till I read your updates. Barring the next couple of days, I think the relationship between you and the CM is broken…allergies are really difficult to manage, sorry you’re facing this

Completely agree.

If the parents don't take the allergy seriously then what does it matter if the CM doesn't either 😳

Take a look at yourself OP, stop with the lies, get your own shit in order, take responsibility for your own actions and your child, stop blaming others for your actions/mistakes.

And @iamme21 cat allergies can be the same - very allergic to some cats, no reaction to others.

YABU op. But your child clearly has serious allergy issues that you're starting to navigate, live and learn. You maybe better off with nursery than CM as less home like so less likely to encounter dogs.

The allergies are from your own dog!?
Gawd...