On Friday night my 16 year old daughter legged it out the window and went to her boyfriends. I’ve since learnt that his Mum has been telling my daughter for weeks that she is welcome to move in with them. My daughter was 16 at the beginning of May.
She said she didn’t like it here and wanted to live with them. Her boyfriend has some conditions ADHD, Autism, dyslexia and maybe other things as she has said before that one day she will be his carer. She told her sisters today that his Mum gets £2500 a month in disability benefits (gives him £500 a month) and that when my daughter is 18 she will get it as his carer as his Mum plans to leave him and his younger brother and go off travelling (my daughter told her older sisters this earlier about taking over as his carer when she’s 18 like it’s a fairytale life).
Her boyfriend was sleeping in the front room as his brother has one bedroom and his Mum the other and now she has given them the bedroom and she is sleeping in the front room. What sort of Mother encourages someone else’s child to sneak out of their home without their parents knowledge. I’m sure she picked her up the other day as she left in her slippers and they weren’t dirty when I went round there when we realised she had gone so no way she walked to his house at 9.30 at night, she shuffled in them as they are slip on.
I am so angry his Mum has done this no wonder she never seemed interested to see/talk to me and last Thursday I went to pick him up to take them to their Prom and she never even came out for any photos or to wave them off.
i read as she is 16 she can live where she wants so is there anything I should be doing? I get universal credit and child benefit for her and am wondering how long I should wait before notifying that she doesn’t live here. It’s only been 5 days so far and I am hoping she comes back but she says she is happier there. I feel she has been brainwashed and hope his Mum is not encouraging her to get pregnant so she is trapped there.
Anyone else’s child moved out at 16? I just don’t know what to do. Thanks