Hot, tired and 'touched out'

[Ketryne]

Just here for a bit of a moan really. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with baby number 2, it's been 28 degrees here today and my nearly 3 year old DS has just learnt that saying 'mamma' over and over again like he wants something and hearing me say 'yes?' each and every time is a really funny game!

DS has also been home from nursery for 2 days with a throat infection and fever so DH and I have been juggling him alongside working from home while my son seems to want to be surgically attached to me at all times. And I'm just so hot and so tired.

This second baby is very wanted (we had miscarriages last year so it hasn't been an easy ride) but tell me, how on earth am I'm going to cope with the pressure of being this 'needed' for double the number of children in a few months?!

In a few months it will be cooler for a start. Sounds like you e had a struggle with DS being poorly and a bit needy, having to work, the heat and being PG.

Have you got a decent chunk of Mat Leave planned and will DH be taking Paternity Leave?

It’s MUCH easier than people make out and second babies are like a glass of cool water on a hot day. All the deciding what you are going to do and the learning how to do it has been done.

You’re in a tricky situation right now with illness, pregnancy, tiredness and heat. I would concentrate on making things as easy as possible for yourself this week (go to bed early with a fan on? Shut yourself away for a cool bath?). Don’t worry about the future now - at least some of these factors (pregnancy, heat, illness) will definitely/ probably have gone by the time the baby arrives.

Snap! 19 weeks and a boy turning 3 next month. He only wants to stand in my way and have intense cuddles when I JUST WANT TO GET THINGS DONE

I feel your pain 🌸

Thanks everyone, it's reassuring to hear it's not exactly doubly difficult with two. I know the heat probably won't last much longer (and I'm not wishing it away, we get so little sunshine!) it's just adding to how unbearable the constant touching and chatter from my toddler feels right now. I adore all the snuggles usually but he's just getting so heavy and I'm already increasingly uncomfortable. I just feel like I need some physical space sometimes!

My husband is fantastic and shares everything 50:50, but he's away this weekend on a cycling trip which I'm massively dreading.

We'll muddle through it, and I'm sure we'll find a system of sorts when the second one arrives too, it's just daunting to be losing what remains of my personal space as well as adding another set of priorities piled onto our plates.

It's tough going isn't it! I don't want to wish the cuddles away as he deserves dedicated time and affection but it's just so MUCH!