Sleep reliability?

[whyyy321]

Hi everyone,

Just looking for a bit of reassurance really, as I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed!

Dc has never been a great sleeper, we sleep trained at about 1 year old and that got us to a period of sleeping through. Almost 2 now and probably sleeps through (730-6ish) about 50-60% of the time. Other times will wake for maybe a quick wake (drink of water), other times (like last night, hence feeling tired and vulnerable now) will wake for a more prolonged period where he finds it tricky to settle and will doze off/wake/doze off/wake on and off for a while.

Is there a point where it gets more reliable? I'm not expecting 100% surety but I'm struggling as I haven't shaken my night time anxiety that developed when he was waking hourly for about 7 months. It's the source of most of my upset and our arguments and I'd love to have faith that eventually they do just sleep more reliably???

DD woke every 60-90 minutes until 2.5. Then the stretches got longer by 4.5 she slept 7:30-6:30.

DD is 4.5 and we've been at a point of sleeping through 80-90% of the time for about a year now, I think we'd have got there slightly sooner but she regressed a bit when her little sister arrived. My youngest has only slept a handful of full nights in her whole 15 months so I'm looking forward to the time that they both sleep all night, it takes its toll.

i once saw a graph (which I can’t find now obviously) which showed the average ages of when children start sleeping through reliably and it was 2.5-3. At age 2 I was really at the end of my tether when they wouldn’t sleep. But by 3 is was basically fine and from 4 onwards it was long and deep every night!

That's reassuring! Perhaps we are closer than I think. I'm finding it hard to enjoy evenings as I can't shake the worry he'll wake (having therapy for this!). I think I've seen that graph too!

His sleep sounds pretty standard for that age. I'd say both of mine got reliable the year they were 3. The youngest is 4 soon and still wakes maybe once a week on average but almost always an in and out job.