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" they" said it would get easier when he could crawl!!!

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whatamess100 · 24/06/2024 20:52

Every man and his dog said my lb would turn into a happy boy when he was on the move....I'm still waiting!

From day one, he has been a challenge. He is amazing, but he is literally ending me. From the moment he wakes to the moment he goes to sleep, he cries, winges,moans! He has reflux but he's been discharged from the hospital, and he's improved slightly.
He is crawling and even pulling himself up on the sofa already, and he does it while whinging. He will not entertain himself, he has no interest in cbeebies, music, toys...nothing! I spend my days carrying him, putting him down...scream....pick him up...scream!

I've tried not to pick him up and lettting him cry it out, but after 15mins hes in a right state, crawling and throwing himself about while crying and screaming.

Sleep is an issue he only has around x 2 30/40 min naps all day, so i dont think that helps, but even having contact naps, he won't sleep any longer and i have to wrestle him to have a contact nap and hes litteraly fighting it.

night-time, he has a good routine and goes to sleep well but does wake 1/2 times night.

He's so full on some days. It's like trying to hold a wild animal, he want to be picked up, but he doesn't want to be held...if that even makes sense.

mmumms told me she can't have him when i go back to work because he's so intense and full-on. He never stops, before he was immobile and would moan and cry with frustration. Now he is on the move hes no better.

I think he hates being a baby.

I dont know what I'm doing wrong, i don't know what i can do. he's just never happy. He has moments where hes happy, but they are fleeting, and we are back to square one.

Going out in the pram was a godsend because he would enjoy that, but even if that is a battle now, he screams, twists, tries to get out, and throws himself back and forth.

I'm at a loss, i dont know what i can do to help him.

Has anybody else had a baby like this.

I'm desperate!

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DelilahBucket · 24/06/2024 20:55

How old is he?

TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled · 24/06/2024 20:56

How old is he and what are you doing during the day? Whats your structure look like? Are you attending groups? Swimming?

Edenmum2 · 24/06/2024 21:04

Some babies really don't like being babies. It definitely will get better, he can't communicate with you at the moment what he's feeling so mostly it's frustration. Trust me I get how draining it can be. Is there anything he does enjoy doing? Have you tried baby groups etc? Soft play? My DD absolutely loved a door bouncer when she was younger, she could really get all her energy out.

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Vallmo47 · 24/06/2024 21:10

Yes. My daughter was exactly like this, at the very most she’d sleep for 20 minutes at a time, no matter what I did she was screaming, moaning or making horrible sounds. She was also breastfed so wouldn’t go to anyone else EVER and even during the night she’d wake at least 15-20 times. At one point someone came up to me and said “your daughter must be approaching 2 now and I have not once seen her smile”. That was my reality and I will never ever forget what hell it was.

She calmed down when she could walk and we could communicate. Once she could go where she wanted and ask for things, when we could compromise and she understood things. That’s finally when it calmed down.

I feel you.

whatamess100 · 24/06/2024 21:18

Sorry....can't believe i didn't put his age! He is 7.5 months!

We go to swimming once a week and a baby group and meeþ up with friends.

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whatamess100 · 24/06/2024 21:24

Our day is quite structured, walk to school & drop my eldest off, he has his first nap, get home wakes up, moans & crys at me untill i get him to have the second nap, play, lunch, meet friends/swimming/ baby class then back to the school run.

He has a door bouncer..hates it... car walker thing...hates it... jumperoo...hates it

He hates being in the car, he just screams until he falls asleep. And he hates his high chair, he thrashes about and screams to the point i can't feed him sat in there i have to do it on my knee.

Every single day is a battle.

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Ilovecrispstoomuch · 24/06/2024 21:34

That sounds so hard @whatamess100
i wonder if he’s chronically tired? He doesn’t sound like he’s getting enough sleep at all. All my kids were like this when they didn’t get enough sleep. And it can be a vicious circle of them finding it more difficult to sleep the more tired they got.
can you maybe try a sleep consultant or something? So you know how much he should be having and can have some advice and support about getting him
into a good routine?
we never used one - but I’ve heard good things from friends.

Guardian12 · 24/06/2024 22:06

I have a 13 month old who was a screamy fussy baby up until a few months ago. Lots of whinging, wriggling, wanted to be picked up
then put down, then back up. I thought she must have ADHD at one point because she would move constantly and flit from object to toy after 5 seconds. If I left the room
for longer than 10 seconds she’d cry and I would get so stressed just going to the bathroom.

She’s become so much sweeter and easygoing since her communication improved, now she can gesture and point at what she wants and even has a few words. She’s also realised if I leave the room she can just follow me and doesn’t get upset. So now if I go into the kitchen she just crawls after me and I give her some pots or pans to play with or she investigates the washing machine! Her attention span has improved too so she will play with a toy or just watch Ms Rachel while I can get some things done.

I’m sure there is hope on the horizon for you.

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