Just struggling a bit really, anyone mind listening to me?

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I've got a 4yo and a 1yo, I work 3 days a week and DH is 5 x 10 hour days.

I am finding life tough at the moment, and no matter how often I tell myself it'll be easier when they're bigger, it still doesn't really help the now.

My job is very stressful and full on, which you think would mean I'm paid a lot but I'm not really. It's not hard work, just a lot of it, if that makes sense.

DH is very good and helps a lot with the children and the house, but he leaves at 7 and often gets home at 7 so I feel I really take on the burden of the kids and life admin etc.

My neighbours are really irritating me, they are in their late 70s and I've never known elderly people to be soooo active, and quite honestly very nosey. They hear me leaving the house saying "bye" if I pop out at the weekend and one of them will us usually run out the front to meet us.
It's very frustrating for us living next door to people who are so interested in us, who are always on the go, I'm just always aware of their presence.sounds awful but I dream of the day one of them dies so it quietens down a bit next door and we don't feel like we're trying to avoid them so much.

Anyway, I'm feeling low. I already take ADs after experiencing PND after DC1, and we moved house and DH went through a redundancy so I never came off them.

Not sure why I'm writing this, I'm just feeling crap and I'm struggling to get much enjoyment out of life.

Anyone else?

Can't read and run, it all sounds a bit rubbish for you at the moment OP - and your neighbours sound batshit that would drive me up the wall.

So great that you recognise that maybe you aren't feeling your best and taking steps to help yourself, but doesn't change the hardness of everything you are experiencing

Am sure you are not alone in these feelings - these are the tough years x

@Alwaystired2023 thank you.

I could’ve written this, also a 4 and 1 year old (no nosy neighbours though). I love my kids so much but most days feel hard. We don’t seem to have a steady routine because something seems to go tits up almost every day, whether that’s one of the children are ill, there’s an event on at school, work is extra demanding or one of us has to travel to some far flung place for a meeting or whatever. Every day just feels cobbled together and v little actual enjoyment. Currently sat in bed with a feverish, coughing 1 year old DS napping on me - so there goes the next 4 nights of sleep, while also trying to work, clean, cook, look after our eldest, do her pick ups and drop offs… it all feels impossible and I’m permanent burned out.

Solidarity here. We have a nearly 3 year old and nearly 5 year old boys. We both work full time. I repeat to myself daily it’s feels hard because it is hard!!! It’s so hard.

try to somehow carve out an hour by yourself every week. An hour on my own really helps me refresh and have more patience. I need that physical time away from them despite adoring them.

your neighbours would drive me utterly bonkers as well it’s a bit of an invasion on your privacy when you have no peace with young kids. Sending love ❤️

That's really horrible dreaming of your neighbour dying. Why can't you just say hi sorry can't stop. Get a grip

I think a lot if us would sympathise! It's hard work and everything seems 100 tines worse especially when you're not feeling your best!

Can you ask for some help from family to take over one weekend? I know it's not always possible!

It's so hard and I feel you.