Sleep training?

[Northtosouth]

DS is 13 months old, his sleep has been hit and miss since he was born I guess probably normal for a baby however recently things have really gone down hill and I’m considering sleep training as I’m all out of ideas. He won’t fall asleep on his own, if I try to leave the room he’s absolutely hysterical. I try to comfort in his cot but he will only fall asleep with me patting him. He has now started waking in the night and I’m spending 2+ hours in his room in the middle of the night trying to get him back to sleep. I’m on my knees with tiredness. My husband does help but even if he goes in to settle him I’m awake anyway and can’t go back to sleep until baby is, so most of the time I do it myself as at least my husband can then sleep and we aren’t both awake.
I have always been against sleep training but I don’t see how else I’m going to get him to be able to settle to sleep. We have been through this before but he’d usually go back to sleep in the night within 5-10 minutes.

Can anyone give any advice, I’m really stuck with what to do.

Do some research. Look at all the different sleep training options and find one that will suit you, then follow it and stick to it. If you have the budget, get a sleep trainer in to help you. If you feel too guilty, do some research into the damage that long-term sleep deprivation does.

When you've had some sleep, have a think about why you were against something that you don't seem to know a huge amount about.

Get Richard Ferber's book How to Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems and do what seems most appropriate based on that. Saved our sanity and probably our marriage with child no. 1. We sleep trained both our children, and now aged 15 and 11 they are perfectly fine, don't worry about any longer term consequences; sleep is really important for all of you.

It was fantastic for us. Made an enormous difference instantly and the whole family is still feeling the benefits four years later. You have to be disciplined, but it's great. I only wish we hadn't waited so long before starting.

Completely agree. We did sleep training and looking back I believe it was a kindness. He cries less now overall than he did at the worst when he was waking every 40 minutes.hes almost 7 months and sleeps the whole night since he was 4 1/2

I used to hate how smug people sounded when they said their babies sleep through the night but honestly of I did it you can do it! We used a sleep consultant and it was the best £150 I've spent

At that age I'd just buy a double mattress, pop it on the floor and sleep next to him if he wakes. I wish I'd done that with my first rather than hours and hours bloody shushing and patting in the night.