Some advice please.
My sons father asks to see my son on the day of. He will message me asking if I'm home, and if I am, he comes over for a couple of hours. Some days I don't hear from him at all and it's starting to annoy me that he can't/won't tell me ahead of time the days he is planning on seeing our son. Because I am on maternity it's like he assumes I am always home and he can just swan in as and when.
Our son is 6 weeks old, sometimes I leave him with his dad at his house but usually his dad comes to mine until hes older.
Baring in mind he never wanted our son until he was born, and treated me terribly all through my pregnancy, I feel resentful regarding his behaviour.
He has a history of being unreliable and dropping me when something better came up... as he pleases (first hand experience), and the past couple of days he has been noticeably quiet and absent. It makes me wonder if he has met someone or the novelty of his son is starting to wear off.
Im not sure how to go about setting boundaries without rocking the boat. He decided to take a career break when our son was born and we had a disagreement over the choice on fathers day, as it means he 'cant afford to pay maintenance that we agreed'. Since then, he has been very cold towards me, even in my own home and has been noticeably seeing his son less. He diasppeared for 3 days, radio silnce only to tell me he went to Marbella for 3 days, after just returning recently from Monaco and Dubai...he just does not communicate and leaves all decision making to me.
Any advice would be welcome. Other than this, he is very sweet with our son.