Babymoon but toddler is unwell - advice please!

[Camzarella]

Hello,
I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby (had a loss in November 23) and DH and I are set to go on a 4 night holiday tomorrow for our last time alone for a while.

My parents (who are fantastic) are looking after my 2 yo, with my MIL and siblings kindly popping in to see him too. Trouble is, he's been unwell for the last week with a tummy bug and lack of appetite and thirst.

He's seen doctors etc who haven't been too concerned except for the lack of drinking. I thought we were coming out of the woods yesterday as he began having water and wet foods, producing wet nappies. But today he's woken up with a temperature. Good news is he's drinking lots and has had a few nibbles of a cracker so far. He's had some calpol also and generally seems OK, tired but OK.

Is it reasonable for me to still travel? I feel incredible mum guilt and suffer badly from anxiety but I'm trying to just get on with it, knowing he'll be safe and looked after.

Any advice or similar experiences from fellow mums is much appreciated. Xx

How far are you going and would you be able to get back easily?

Can you make the trip shorter - maybe go a day later but come back at the same time to give him time to feel better?

Honestly I wouldn't. You won't enjoy it knowing he's not well and he will likely be clingy and grumpy which will mean he's not having a nice time either.

I think use your mum instincts. If they tell you something is majorly wrong and he'll need you, then reconsider. But if deep down you know he'll get over it in a few days and is being very well looked after, I would go. My dd has had the same for the past week and is coming out of it now. Kids get illnesses and it sounds like you're lucky enough to have family who are equally able to care for him.

Being honest I wouldn’t go if he’s still unwell, he will want his parents and to be at home. If it’s a bug he might spread it too.

Depending on the nature of your holiday some places can let you change your dates with 24 hours notice. It's try that first.
If not then cancel+ claim insurance and rebook
If not then... Depends how much he needs his mum and how close he is to your family - would they be good substitutes?

We're travelling to Morocco, it's a 3.5hr flight. The hotel only does minimum 4 night bookings so we couldn't cut it shorter unfortunately.

How easy is it for you to get home?

Yeah my gut feeling is it's just the flu. He's been playing, laughing etc and mostly seems well. He's very used to my parents as we live 5 mins away and they've had him at least 2 days a week since I've returned from mat leave. I'll play it by ear and see how he is throughout the day x

Ah cross post. See how today goes - I assume money will be lost regardless of when you cancel now.

Thanks.

My parents would be great with him. He's very used to them and they adore him. They're 75 and very wholesome and he's honestly their whole world. He'd defo miss me though as since I've been pregnant he's been super clingy.

If your parents are fine with it then go. He'll be fine. There are flights out of Morocco many times a day, if you need to leave in an emergency you can, but that's hardly likely.

I'll be honest op, I wouldn't go if he was ill because I know I wouldn't fully enjoy it for worrying about him. Also a sick 2 year old is alot for grandparents to deal with for 4 days - I say that as someone with a very similar relationship with my parents to what you described. They'd be ok I'm sure, but it wouldn't be much fun for anyone.

Did you go@Camzarella how is your son?

Kids with tummy bugs don't go to 75 year olds, or anyone, in my book.

If your parents were happy to have him I would go and just know what to do if you need to fly back quickly. But likelihood is it will be fine.

I 100% wouldn't go. Not just it's not fair to grandparents, but sick children just want thier parents its not fair to him.

Also, as his mum I think you will be more aware of if he goes downhill etc quicker than grandparents as you know him best.

I know it's not ideal we recently had to cancel a holiday on the day we were all due to fly as my son wasn't very well.

My toddler niece gave ‘just the flu’ to my very healthy mum when she was in her mid 70s and put her in hospital. I wouldn’t leave my sick child with GP. I don’t think it’s fair on either of them.