Ex and I split when son was 2 (he’s 11 next week). Ex promptly moved an hour away and since then has son 1 night a week unless he’s got plans where he won’t see him at all.
Ex has always point blank refused to help during the week even though I’ve asked him to a number of times during the year due to the “distance”. He has never been to a sports day, parents evening, didn’t come to view high schools even though I asked him to, didn’t come to hospital when son needed emergency surgery and a couple of weeks ago refused to have him as son had a cold and ex and his wife didn’t want germs in their house 🙈😂 it’s sons birthday next week and I’m throwing him a party and ex is going on stag do.
Our son suffers from migraines and over the last year has had a number of instances of being sent home from school with one as they make him vomit (he’s under paeds). Every time this happens school won’t let him back for 48 hours even though the sickness is related to his migraine but what I’m so irritated with is that it always falls on me to miss work when this happens. He never ever helps in these situations. It’s happened today again and I had to leave work and my boss as lovely as he is told me it’s becoming a concern as i am missing so much work which I completely agree with.
I called ex on leaving work and basically told him I’ve had enough, I don’t want my job on the line because he refuses to be an active parent. I told him he should be ashamed of himself for doing the bare minimum and that he needs to help me more. He replied that as I’m the primary carer it should fall on me and that his job is too important to just leave!! It’s because of me being the only active parent that has allowed him to get this amazing job where he earns ridiculous money whilst I find jobs to fit around the kids.
I am in no way ranting about being a mother, I adore my children and they will always come first but I am sick to death of him letting me do 95% of everything then still having a say on decisions for our son. If it were up to me we’d emigrate and try and have a nicer life somewhere else but because ex won’t allow it that can’t happen which sucks but that’s life.
sorry just needed to let it out